Part of the self image
of modern, spiritual or 'new age' people is, that one is 'open minded'.
But looking nearer it turns out that there is no real openness, it is just
a concept. 'Openness' should not just be directed to things which fits
and confirms one's already established view to complete it, it should also
include the allowance of information and influences which might question
oneself. Openness is not part of human nature or an attitude of one's personality.
In deed it is not. All systems are more or less closed and filter all influences
strongly. This is part of the survival behavior and protects the individual.
There might come the
moment when this protection is felt as a cage and trap. To get out of the
trap of concepts can be a long and painful way. Leaving one's identifications
behind is not at all easy, as those give sense and fill one's spaces, which
otherwise would leave one in silence and void and this would be frightening
and must be avoided. But as we know all that the growing force is one of
the strongest which exist, so every thing which makes it stuck will be
broken in its time. We can observe this in nature when a tiny plant breaks
through hard earth or even asphalt and finds its way to the sun. The same
happens with humans, only that 'personality' is probably harder to break
down than rocks.
But life works like the ocean waves moving the stones, which become after
some time nice round pebbles, - they need each other, they need the encounter
with each other... The stones can't avoid this and it might be that they
even enjoy it. The humans have all kind of tricks not to confront each
other, by hiding, pretending or escaping or by using the confrontation
to become even stronger. But this is not always possible and confrontations
are happening in which one loses and the usually defense doesn't work.
A certain feeling of being vulnerable might show up and leaves the person
in a situation of helplessness and insecurity. The same happens if someone
is very sick and the established health system can't give the necessary
support to be healed.
Then there might appear
questions and the protective personality system allows that a door opens.
A door which not only permits information to be received which confirms
the established concepts and one's self image and world view, but also
will direct the view to focus towards oneself, finding out about human
nature and so allowing to get to know oneself and the tricks one is using
to survive and to be confirmed in one's existence.
The next step might
be to be aware of one's reactions when confronting situations and people
in daily life and not giving the fault to them for this but looking at
oneself. Then indeed there starts some openness and one will be capable
to use one's surrounding in a creative way for one's own growing process.
Then real healing can happen, as one takes self responsibility and is not
anymore the victim of circumstances.
Then one can be open
to whatever shows up, one is able to relate and also to respond, not being
limited in this by being trapped by one's unconscious conditions... and