How is it possible that love can so easily turn to its opposite?
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Question: How is it possible that love can so easily turn to its opposite? I know about duality, polarity, opposites, yin/yang, etc. But can you take me deeper into understanding the essence or the reasoning that turns one from love and acceptance to meanness and attack?
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BeiYin: That what people in general call 'love' has nothing or little to do with love. 'Love' that turns easily into hate belongs to the 'personality' and is part of the defence and confirmation system, - what I call 'personality games' - mainly serving to survive and finding self confirmation for ones established feelings of existence. 'Personality' seen from an higher reality is an illusion and its existence consist in the first place in its identification with ones self image and all the established concepts that are unconsciously and consciously part of it. The individual urges to be confirmed in ones 'personality' to prove and feel ones existence and expects fulfillment by being acknowledged from the outside and so being confirmed in ones self image. In confrontation with the happenings and influences from the outside daily reality, the individual is responding with reactions from ones system, that are: Body, mind and emotions, all are responding from the background of given pictures and concepts, strongly established. The established society and humanity in its present state of evolution has given names to every thing and all symptom on all levels have their specific scientific label or a commonly used name; for the body reactions that might show up in unbalance or disease and the same with reactions from the mind and emotions. Then these are given a label and might be called 'love' and 'hate', or depression and euphoria, depending if the reaction is caused by the confirmation of ones expectations and self image or caused by rejection and disappointment. It is necessary to know that these reactions are mainly caused by ones unconscious concepts, connected with the desire to realize these concepts and that reactions are automatic and that there is mostly no reflection possible because the individual is totally identified with ones emotional or mental reactions, no matter if these are felt as 'love' or 'hate' or whatever.
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Question: It is difficult to understand out of my own psyche, because I would never hurt or harm another. I am told not only that it is I who trigger this, but that I am the only one who brings this mean behavior out in the other; yet I do nothing of note, other than just being who I am. So the "firing pin" seems to be within the attacker, and is set off inexplicably?
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BeiYin: Indeed, it is not possible that you understand what 'real love' might be if you haven't realized it in your life and 'personality' and it can't be realized in ones personality because it goes beyond any concepts and so can't be part of 'personality' even though those concepts might be of the highest philosophical or spiritual concepts, based in ones intellect and emotions. Talking and writing about it is pretty senseless, it can't bring real understanding, because whatever is expressed will be integrated in ones personality into the already established pictures or - will be felt as offense and be rejected. To keep your perfect self-image as a 'loving person' intact, you need to give the fault for your own negative reactions to the outside and other people. You believe that you do nothing to cause reactions from others, not knowing that you are provoking through your 'existence' of what you say: "just being who I am". There you might find the 'firing pin', although it is hardly possible that you find out because you will defend your self-image with all means and looking at yourself will be the last thing you might want to do, - the same as with every body, - even part of your self-image is that you are an open minded person, searching for the truth, etc. Here resistance from oneself shows up, but here lays the creative solution to get out of the trap of ones 'personality', not by fighting against oneself, that would mean to go into another game, but by letting go of ones maybe worn out self image...
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Question: How do love and hate reside in the same person? I simply cannot comprehend such reversals. Does one go to the opposite extreme out of their own hurt and pain or simply because there is an undeveloped aspect within them yet to be brought to light and healed?
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BeiYin: This should be clear by now and you will understand why negative reactions happen, - not only in "them" but also in yourself and you are right to see it as an undeveloped state, although not only in some aspects, but in ones 'whole being', that in a growing process needs to be brought to light and healing. - A 'growing process' that you need to initiate by yourself: Taking self responsibility and being critical about your self image, - observing your reactions, not giving the fault in the first place to the outside, but keeping a view to your own background. - Seeing your life and the confrontation with daily happenings as a challenge that can be creative when understanding that you receive exactly what you need for your growing, even though the situations and the behavior and reactions of others does not comfort you. But with your new attitude you will start to relate and respond in a different way, not just defending yourself in your position and condition or feeling good when things happens in your expected way, fulfilling your needs as a 'personality'...
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PS: I have the idea to write a book about it, but probably nobody wants this?! Why not? Read about it what I wrote just a few days ago:  Human Evolution and Unconscious Sabotage
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