Betsy: This statement speaks about a general problem and I agree with
BeiYin that this is the source of problems or conflicts. The phenomena is
such that human beings in their current state of evolution are mainly 
identified with their self-image, and are striving in all ways to confirm this image. So this being the underlying motivation, no matter what they might be doing in the physical sense, no matter which goal, etc., they are all attached to everything that they see that defines themselves. The other aspect of this problem is that people don't know they have this problem (it is like invisible, it doesn't exist) and they don't want to know that they have this problem. So any information about it, will be rejected and/or taken personally. If people know about this problem, then it means that they are capable to grow beyond their personality, if not they aren't. It's actually that simple and the reality shows that there aren't too many people ready to confront the problem, which can be seen by the
reactions coming back from statements such as this.

Comment: Have you grown beyond your personality enough yourself to realize that your perspective of your surrounding is not the only true view there is? 

Betsy:  I realize that my perspective is my individual interpretation, and 
as much as I'm aware, I'm not invested in the game of proving that it's 
the correct viewpoint. Knowing that my perspective is subject to change, 
and has to do with my history, there is no need to spend time to prove it's truth, is there?  Then what to do with it? Just observe it, question it (what might be the reason behind it), and then move on, let it go. Turn off the TV, etc. At best my perspective is an approximation, but for sure it is not reality as this can't be contained in any static image. At the moment in time I may have succeeded to convince everybody of the truth of my viewpoint, then the outside has changed or given a new aspect, and then I'll have to renew my efforts - a never-ending process! This is along the same lines as what BeiYin was talking about above: the capability to grow beyond one's personality.  The normal behavior is that people are identified with their interpretation or the way they see it, and then they put all of their abilities into proving it's validity...  (They do this because of their vested interest to confirm their self-image, even they aren't aware of why they do it, or even that they are doing it.)

Comment: It seems very much to me that you are setting yourself up for trouble. The majority of people who would accept such a dependency arrangement...

Betsy: Primarily we are seeking members that want to get out of 
dependency, or better, have taken concrete steps to do so. Because we
know about the 'inherent problem' alluded to in the first statement 
(people's attachment and clinging to outside forms), which comes about 
because of the individual need to prove themselves, that this is exactly the reason why people are dependent. The intention of FalconBlanco is that of helping people (incl. ourselves) to get out of dependency and to become sovereign, exactly the opposite of what you allude to above. Anyone reading our web site in-depth, will realize that conclusion on their own, because it's expressed in nearly every article we've written. 

Comment: Most others who could provide for themselves would not 
want to lose that ability. I have a good paid work...

Betsy: To take the step to let go of outside forms that previously gave 
you a sense of security, such as employers giving you money in exchange
for work is not an easy thing to do. These kinds of steps, getting out of
dependent situations, even the one on money itself, are part of one's 
growing process. But for something new to come, something old must be
let go of. It can be scary at the time to take those steps into the unknown, letting go of what is familiar, this path isn't for everybody. 

Comment: Your generous offer for community members, actually has the affect to make people dependent upon you - the generous benefactor. You prevent people from obtaining a secure future, because they don't amass property or income while at your place. In essence, this is why you can't attract the people you want because you're not offering any guarantee for their future.

Betsy: All these kinds of statements show an underlying materialistic
attitude. There is another step and this is to realize that security doesn't exist in outside forms. A unique aspect about Falconblanco IS the possibility to discover a security in oneself, that isn't dependent on outside forms or authority figures. This is something that can't be taken away from you, that can't be lost and isn't dependent upon the chaos. For me this kind of 'treasure within' is priceless. At Falconblanco there is offered the opportunity to wean oneself from dependency on all outside forms of security. This is accomplished by giving a space free from the need to be in the 9-5 world, where all you need to survive in the moment is provided for you. As well as a supporting atmosphere of other people who have taken concrete steps to get out of dependencies on material aspects and authorities. This doesn't mean that you are guided by leaders or taught, as real growth will come from your own inspiration and can't be learned. There isn't any authority here, so one has to take their own initiative. There isn't any concept, belief system, or leader, or plan - and frankly this is probably the hardest thing for people to take. Many people try to put us into a box of their interpretation, exactly because they can't quite conceive of what we are trying to do.