Attitude: When you are told you are good, you should not relax but should
try to become even better. Your continuous improvement gives happiness
to you, to those around you and to God."
Where are we? This quote is from the 19th century and the subject is for
6-9 years old kids. Like this, children were manipulated and formed. Like
this, all kind of religious sects were manipulating their members and in
a similar way gurus were manipulating their devotees.
haven't changed that much in one hundred years and still the majority are
like sheep without reflection under the guiding protection of an authority.
In Internet groups with the highest level available it should be different.
Well, it should be, obviously it isn't... Gosh!
do not expect anything from others, so their actions cannot be in opposition
to wishes of mine."
You are presenting another facet of your survival techniques and you are
calling it "Right Attitude". You are not expecting anything, so
that you will not be disappointed if your wishes will not be fulfilled.
twisted expression clearly shows, that you are pretending not to expect
anything, but that you are indeed expecting too much, so you need a technique
to protect yourself.
would be free of wishes, that would mean that you are an enlightened saint
and apart of daily reality, then you would not need to protect yourself
and surely you wouldn't need any attitude, not even a "Right Attitude".
not to expect anything from others is starry-eyed and ignorant of the world.
It is against life and against being human. The artificial way to cover
our normal human expectation with a concept of non relating and hiding,
will cause other people to react to this attitude and push this tricky
person into even more isolation. People might be stupid but they are sensing
if a person is authentic or not and will react, although unconsciously
and turn away from the 'pretender'. Because of this there might come the
strong need for followers and devotees and other sophisticated techniques,
for example the "path to enlightenment" and as well missionary attitudes.
who is tired of all these games, which are nothing else than survival techniques
for one's personality, will not have too much difficulties to look through
this pseudo spirituality and will query all this, including oneself. The
first approach might be, to form critical questions and not to take for
granted that what clever people with authority are telling us, using it
for their own advantage. Then we will be able to recognize their motives
and see that their actions are part of personality and power games.
this be the first step to become an adult? It might be frightening and
one might feel alone - but this might be the 'path to freedom'.
Attitude: Avoid a negative approach to life. Why gaze down the sewers when
there is loveliness all around us? One may find some fault in even the
greatest masterpieces of art, music, and literature. But isn't it better
to enjoy their charm and glory? Life has a bright side and a dark side,
for the world of relativity is composed of light and shadows. If
you permit your thoughts to dwell on evil, you yourself will become ugly.
Look only for the good in everything, that you absorb the quality of
beauty." (Paramahansa Yogananda)
An 'Attitude', if it shows as an expression of one's being, is authentic.
Avoid to pretend something which is not the expression of your being.
manipulation on all levels, with the intention to change people, things
or happenings, or your own feelings or thoughts, to bring them nearer to
your images of the world or yourself.
is it possible to avoid something, if we are doing it anyway? Isn't it
better to say: I admit that I am trying to manipulate and that I am
pretending wherever and whenever I can. I will try to be aware of this,
wherever and whenever I can.
I see things in a negative way, then this is my personal attitude, coming
out of my personal history, this is my reaction to life - because I am
programed like this. I will try to be aware of this, wherever and whenever
not try to change my attitude if it comes out of self protection. I will
try to be aware of the reason and why I am reacting in this way. Then I
can make a decision and might change my viewpoints, then my attitude will
change by itself...
world is not just beautiful, indeed there is very little love around us.
It is like this and this is our reality, even if we are suffering from
it and desire that it might be different. It is because people living for
goals, ideas, pictures, images, wishes, etc. They are trying to manipulate
to fulfill their desire and lying to themselves and others, pretending
to be something what they are not, reducing their existence to a shadow
of their picture. Provoking reactions in their surrounding and causing
all this reality from which they are suffering to such an extreme.
only see what we want to see, rejecting everything which goes against our
images and then calling all these negative, we will not be able to see
our reality, we will go on pretending, lying and suffering...
we go pretending, just in a more 'spiritual' way? To see only the positive
in this world and ourselves? Distributing and adding our part to this world
of liars? And of course accepting all lies around us if these are confirming
our own lie, no matter where they came from, from a so called 'guru' or
an other authority- the authority of our own images - keeping us dependent
don't look at the negative and don't admit the reality like it is, for
example that we are all liars, more or less, because this is inbuilt in
our structure, this is the survival technique of one's personality, which
is part of the survival system of every alive being, - then we are suppressing
and so we will not be able to be aware of it and to change it. Putting
a cover of beautiful attitude paint on a chaotic base will not help the
individual growing process. The world will not change for a better. -
advice to see only the positive and beauty will cause that we are going
on with the common game of pretending and lying...
that everything which confirms these games are accepted and something which
not confirms it is ignored. Why should the Internet be different from anything
else in this world? Yes, there are beautiful possibilities. The horizon
can only be that wide as the reality of the individuals, with idealistic
ideas we can fill mega and gigabytes of disc space but we will stay ignorant
and silly as we are and slowly destroy ourselves and the world. Why? Because
if we don't wake up by our own decision, the card house of our dream world
will brake down and then there will be no trick left and we will have to
open our eyes...
should you deal with "Attitudes"?
attitudes are part of you, you are acting and reacting out of your structure
which form also your attitudes. Is there a need to deal with yourself?
Only if there is a problem with yourself. You are not satisfy with the
reactions you are provoking because of your behavior?
as your behavior is resulting from your attitude, so you want to change
them? So that you get different reactions from your surrounding? Why are
you not satisfy with those reactions? Because it is not what you expect
to receive in return? What is it you want to receive? You want to be accepted?
You want confirmation for your imagination of what you believe you are?
Who are you? What is the image of yourself? Why you want confirmation of
this? To confirm the structure of your personality? That what you believe
you are? So isn't your attitude and your way how to provoke reactions in
daily life the visible sign of your structure?
you want to change this? Who wants to change this? Are there different
images of yourself? Are you caught in a game with yourself? What could
be the purpose of this? How you could get out of this?
is a key. A very simple one, you don't need to search for this key, you
have it, you own it, nobody can give it to you, nobody can take it away
from you, it is very near to you.
this key is? Ask for it, then you will find it...