We need to feel that we are accepted and matter to other people.
is 'we'? For whom you are the speaker? This is a statement you can use
for yourself but not generalizing it. Although most of humans need confirmation
through other people and with this are trapped in dependence, lies and
manipulation, it is incorrect to let this sound like an inevitable condition
of human kind. It is not. Only when clinging on one's limited personality.
Although this is natural, the suffering caused by depending on this limitation,
opens the possibility to go forward, towards development and growth. With
the advanced result of being able to go beyond.
...because we are all interconnected.
Is this a concept or comes this statement
out of your own spiritual experience? Probably it's a concept, because
someone who feels interconnected with 'all' does not depend anymore on
other people in one's feelings and has no need to be confirmed in one's
existence by other people.
idealistic and spiritual concepts, might help to survive disgusting reality,
but also they create a split and produce suffering and frustration
because the individual can't be content with reality due to the concept
of a 'better' world. People are forced into a game, turning around themselves.
Finding their self confirmation for something they believe they are, and
being involved in their fighting against reality, for dreams and images,
submitted by common concepts and adapted and accepted by society.
It is extremely difficult
to look through these games, because the personality gets one's existence
out of it and is bound to one's lies, holding on one's self image and pretending
to find realization in it. To get out of the trap would require to quest
oneself as a first step and this is hardly possible. The majority of people
are identified with their dreams, concepts and beliefs and so they must
defend themselves, what reforces their personality even more. Right?