Dreaming to live in an Intentional Community...
Comments to a letter of someone who is interested to come to FalconBlanco. 
Quote: I have several questions about your set up and am not yet clear on what

they all are - I wanted to explore your web site a bit more as some answers may
be there.
Having lived in a tightly structured and hierarchical community in UK for 9
years I got to face many of the issues that clearly come up for people when
they come and live with you for a while. This of course is not to say that I
have freed myself from the human need for validation, recognition,
acceptance, respect etc. etc.
When I speak of 'Intentional-community' I mean a collective of adults
and children living together on one property, perhaps a farm, whose purpose
of living together is to live in harmony with each other and with the land and
the creatures of the earth.
BeiYin: And it shows again and again that this doesn't work on a long term. It is
not possible to live a 'concept of harmony'. As it shows clearly from the Christian
concept of 'love and peace' for the last two thousand years. For sure there is
longing and the desire for harmony, but then with all their dream concepts people
are not able and willing to confront reality, where is conflict and hardly any harmony.
Not wanting to acknowledge that harmony has to be realized within oneself first
before it can be lived on the outside with others.
Quote: Then there are communities of people whose lives are dedicated to one
spiritual path or another such as nuns, monks, lamas, Buddhists, etc.
BeiYin: The same with these people, who try to live a 'spiritual concept' forcing
themselves into a form, using techniques to stay in it and to find transformation
of their basic needs. It seems to work, but mostly it is just another game...
Quote: Then there are Kibbutz  working farm communities in Israel.
BeiYin: These worked well for some time as long there was a strong ecological/political/
religious motivation, but still based on a materialistic world view, they were falling
apart or still are used as a way to survive, but not giving real satisfaction.
Quote: "For many, the churches or other religions do not seem to have moved with
the times and are not convincing in what they present. They do not attract
the modern thinking person. Yet there is a hunger - a knowing that there
must be more to life or that their could be or should be."
BeiYin: So do you believe that this 'hunger' is fulfilled in 'Intentional Communities' of whatever
kind?
Quote: Some want to make a difference - to begin to live in a different, more
conscious way, in cooperation with Mother Earth and with other humans and
creatures. From this have emerged the Intentional Community, Permaculture
and Eco-village concepts.
BeiYin: Yes, probably the urge 'for more' created those communities, but the reality
of human nature takes over and those communities are used for the usual personal
games and seldom with the intention to go beyond the well established materialistic
attitude and world view. For example: Money still stays as an important issue and
rules most of the intentions...
Quote: "The desire for community is a desire to fulfill all of the six human needs
listed above. And it goes further it is a desire to create a sustainable lifestyle,
where all basic human needs are met PLUS the 'space' for human internal and
collective exploration and growth."
BeiYin: These 'human needs' are turning mostly around satisfaction - not so different
than people are used to, but believing that with 'like minded people' it will be more
easily fulfilled, - a satisfaction gained by being confirmed in their images and
concepts!
Quote: I'm in fact quite happy to live with such needs, believing that they are a
natural part of human experience. I expect you found the 'six human needs'
on my site.
Coming together with others to form an intentional community or eco-village
will, if we are conscious of it, be a process of understanding the 'human needs'
that each one is wanting to fulfill and assisting each other to meet them. So
finding out what they are for us, and then sharing that with others would a be
a useful part of regular community check-ins or process work.
BeiYin: Yes: 'If we are conscious of it', then this will be a process and 'growing' might
start. But daily reality shows - I am talking about my personal experience I had
during the last thirty years - that people are rarely willing and ready to go into
such a process. They join an 'IC' out of their concepts about it and do not want
to change themselves or their images and concepts. Bringing their expectations
with them and then confronting daily reality, they live comfortable with the parts
which meet their expectations, but then being disappointed because other parts
are not confirmed and so after some time they leave, looking for another place
where their needs might be fulfilled. Similar as others do with their relationships.
Quote: Just suppose all goes well, we get on, and I come and stay at FB, - the big
question for me is why others have not stuck around, why you have not been
able to attract (and keep) mature / maturing fellow community people (apart
from what I assume from your site are two dedicated women).
I lived in one such grouping for 10 years, and tried for three years
to establish a similar one. However, I failed to find people who were committed
to the vision and who had sticking power."
BeiYin: I have no doubts that there exist 'mature' human beings, but being mature
enough they will know about peoples limitations and so don't want to live in
communities, understanding these as a kind of 'kindergarten'. Or they start
to be mature and found an 'IC' themselves with the best intention, but then
growing up fully and with this realizing that they have had still illusions about
human nature and the (primitive) state of human evolution.
Quote: I see that you have posed the question. Why don't you turn the ownership
over to a trust, and you seemed to answer it in a philosophical way, reflecting the
need for the question back to the questioner as part of his/her own process.
Life on Earth is a magical experience. We make it into such a mundane or painful
thing - but when we realize the interconnectedness of all things and how we are just
another part of LIFE manifesting itself we can logically see that our lives can
literally be beautiful like the flowers, the birds and the trees. And if we so choose,
we can spend our time with beautiful people doing creative and  fun things.
BeiYin: Yes indeed: Life can be a magical experience. But it turns out that even those
people who can imagine this and are longing to live it, are stuck in their mundane
needs.
Quote: As I see it, this is a 'technique' - one I'm all too familiar with in the
community I lived in. Probably an unconscious technique - which maintains the status
quo and the power structure.
BeiYin: I have seen this too often and it happens again and again, - I don't take it
personally, otherwise it must be seen as an impertinent insult - and so it
becomes clear that people accuse me exactly about that what they are being and doing
themselves. It shows also your experience with communities and your frustration
about it, strong enough causing a trauma and so you are not being able to see the
possibility that it might be different.
Quote: It may be that you have been using this technique a lot, perhaps without
realizing it. People with open hearts and the willingness to change and grow
readily accept such answers (I nearly said manipulations) and try to take on
board the responsibility for having the question in the first place. This nicely gets
the person to whom the question is addressed - off the hook.
BeiYin: You might need to read more at my Web site to find out that this is NOT
what I'm doing. I am not manipulating people and that's one of the reasons why
people don't stay longer and leave: They want to be manipulated. They don't
want to take self responsibility. They are happy to join a concept, a leader or
a guru. That's not what I am offering.
Do your own 'IC', it is the best, most intense way to learn about human nature
and also finding out about yourself. Go on with your intention to found an 'IC',
you will see...
It is so easy to go into an existing 'IC', or read about one, then one can give all
the fault to the others and with these good reasons leaving and going to the next
place... Keeping oneself untouched.
Quote: So, from my 1 hour of reading your site I got the idea that the reason
you have not grown as a community is around this subject. The one of your own
personal 'power'. Firstly which comes from your deep intellect and philosophical
approach and secondly from what I assume is your 'ownership' of the property.
BeiYin: Oh boy! If this is your resume, then I have nothing more to say. You are
looking for an outside reason and giving me the fault having gained a picture
of me after reading for one hour my Web site. Really! I am losing the interest
to continue writing here. The next probably will be that you offer to take over
FalconBlanco to make a beautiful successful Intentional Community out of it! This
has happened several time over the years... Go back to my Web site and read for
at least 100 hours more, then come back with more essential questions and comments...
Quote: Unconsciously or consciously, people realize that as long as you actually
own the land, they only have food, shelter and security for today and maybe
tomorrow. This is fine for a while, maybe for years whilst young, but as age
creeps along so does ones need for security into ones old age.
BeiYin: How old are you? 65 or 80?
Quote: So now I am hearing ideas for eco-retirement villages! Two anyway within S
Africa.
BeiYin: So then you might want to found an 'eco-retirement Intentional Community'?
With the illusion that then 'mature' people come together? Hahaha...
Quote: I have just purchased, and am currently reading, "Creating a Life
Together" - written by a member of the Earthaven community in USA.
www.earthaven.com  Its really very worth reading. Lots of personal experience
and examples of what other communities did. Where they made mistakes. Ones
that broke up and ones that carried on etc. I recommend it.
BeiYin: I read the Web site of this 'earthhaven' and this tells me more than enough.
Quote: If you feel that your own community may be about to enter a new phase I
think it would be well worth you reading this book.
So my only questions at this point are around this ownership issue. Are you
in fact the owner? How many hectares or acres?
BeiYin: Yes, I'm the 'owner'. 23.000 square meter, with living space for 20 people
and more.
Quote: How did you come to own it and when?
BeiYin: I worked hard for some years and bought the land 32 years ago, then worked
for ten years to build up the place, alone and with paid workers. 
Quote: Is there an airport on the island?
BeiYin: Yes, there is.
Quote: How high above sea level are the residential areas?
BeiYin: About 150 m.
Quote: What is the business that uses the pallets? How does the community
manage economically within the wider economic world? (I understand that
within its own boundaries it can manage without cash (or individuals staying
there can) but it must need cash to buy commodities from outside and pay
property taxes etc.
BeiYin: If you would have read my Web site, then you would have seen that
FalconBlanco is not a community anymore. To give it a form, which people obviously
need, I am in the process of making a 'nonprofit organization' out of it. What counts
and is important is the intention and for sure not the property... Soon I will update
my Web site about it.
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