can we know it's our true calling?
We will know after realizing that we are conditioned by our human nature
being identified with our concepts and self-image. Pretending to be in
a certain way, lying to others & ourselves, bound to the survival needs
of our personality. Clearing our unconscious background & going beyond,
we will know…
so many people crave being treated like garbage in a relationship? What
Part of human nature is to find 'self confirmation' for one's existence,
which mainly means being confirmed in one's self image and concepts, these
are forming one's world view. Included are one's feeling and body sensations.
Being grown up under circumstances which created lacks and deformation,
these are also part of the 'personality' and the individual seeks also
confirmation for these negative forms. Having a inferior complex and feeling
not 'worth' to be treated well, self confirmation will received by being
treated bad and the suffering with it is part of the 'game' in which one
is trapped. This only can change by finding one's true values, going beyond
established self images. How this can be done? Through regularly meditation
practice. It might be possible through psycho therapy and other techniques
but for sure meditation is the most natural and secure way. The problem
doing it is that indeed it will change one's self image and this is not
wanted if the individual is not 'ready' for it. Probably it needs quite
some more suffering...
it ever morally permissible to lie? under what circumstances?
What is called 'moral' is a cover up for our human nature in which lying
and pretending is an important survival game. Observing this within oneself
and ones surrounding, then realizing truth and understanding reality, one
can free oneself from lies.
people are violent and destructive?
People carry too much accumulated frustration and anger, this urges for
an outlet? Or is it that these people are structured by lacks in early
childhood experiences and also later and then choose ‘being bad’ as a way
to get attention from others? They might have tried with being brave &
good but it didn't work.
is part of the personality, the individual is identified with it, so by
being violent and destroying things and people, this gives the feeling
of power and with this the feeling of existence. The more violent one feels
more 'realized', not falling into a void. There has been and is so much
violence in this world and there seems no change since history with it.
Punishing people doesn't help, either education. Religion and moral guidelines
hasn't helped much or even caused the contrary? How can one deal with ones
frustration and anger not reacting these out with violence? When too week
to be violent, people are mean or damage others hiding behind a screen...
so many people crave being treated like garbage in a relationship? What
human nature is to find 'self confirmation' for one's existence, which
mainly means being confirmed in one's self image and concepts, these are
forming one's world view. Included are one's feeling and body sensations.
Being grown up under circumstances which created lacks and deformation,
these are also part of the 'personality' and the individual seeks also
confirmation for these negative forms. Having a inferior complex and feeling
not 'worth' to be treated well, self confirmation will received by being
treated bad and the suffering with it is part of the 'game' in which one
is trapped. This only can change by finding one's true values, going beyond
established self images. How this can be done? Through regularly meditation
practice. It might be possible through psycho therapy and other techniques
but for sure meditation is the most natural and secure way. The problem
doing it is that indeed it will change one's self image and this is not
wanted if the individual is not 'ready' for it. Probably it needs quite
some more suffering...
always we face problems?
The problem is that we don't face problems. Mostly we try to avoid to relate
to what shows up, putting things we don't like under the carpet. If we
would face a problem, dealing with it in a creative way, then we might
find out, that what we see as a problem is caused by our own attitude,
our own individual position and condition. Then we might find out, that
solving the problem the only real way is to do something about ones own,
mostly unconscious structure and background. Changing this, the problem
is solved. This tells, that 'problems' are an important part of our 'growing
process', without, we would stay without change in stuck conditions. So
the 'problem' is a precious mean if we are willing to face it, seeing it
as something positive and challenging.
"God" is a word, standing for a symbol, an idea, an image and a concept.
This can represent a belief in which emotions are completing the mental
concept. The dilemma is, that a concept inhibits often the realization
of it. On the other hand, "God" can be an experience which then goes beyond
words and concepts. A report of this experience will end up in a concept,
giving satisfaction and a certain security.
the ancient definition of "god" something that man could not explain or...?
...was he explaining
something he could explain? Just because you do not understand it does
not hold much water.
explanation or definition even though coming out of an direct spiritual
experience and not out of an already formed and established concept, will
be made to a new concept or integrated into one that already exist. Concepts
are part of the personality and the individual is identified with them,
getting ones feeling of existence out of it. That was the same in ancient
times and is still today. Founders of religions were obviously still too
simple minded in ancient times and had not enough self knowledge and knowledge
about human nature, otherwise they would have known, that humans always
use every thing for their personality games, to protect themselves from
the unknown finding security... using beautiful ideas, for example of 'Love
and Harmony', integrating these into their self image, but continue living
their primitive survival instincts, causing destruction and suffering.
Not wanting and not being able to go beyond...
Probably the best
would have been for founders of religions, just to live a normal daily
life, not even teaching, but giving an example with their attitudes and
their behavior, without talking about any sublime experience, but telling
people if they ask, because they are touched by their presence, to sit
down to do a simple exercise: Being aware of their pure existence and breathing...
The world now would look quite different and there would be real growing
and realization of love and harmony...
is life so boring at the moment?
I thought this was
supposed to be the best time to be alive, but I'm not feeling it.
make a general statement as conclusion of your personal limited reactions.
Life is boring for you because your expectations are not fulfilled. What
are your expectations? Can you dare to look at it? Where are they coming
from? Are these something you want to compensate the lack you have? etc.
An error is to fill
ones life with excitement by consuming all kind of entertainment. That's
part of the big business as there are so many people bored not knowing
what to do with their life. The system does every thing to keep people
dump to keep them as customers for their dubious products and entertainment...
The key to get out
of your condition when feeling so bored, might be that you be aware of
yourself in all aspects of your existence, - without judging it. Be aware
of your body sensations, your feelings, your thoughts. Relate to it and
feel your existence, without forcing, without manipulation. Be aware how
different places and different people have an influence on you in your
different levels of existence. Respond by expressing yourself, being aware
that this is a reaction coming from your condition. Try to be sensitive
not doing harm to others. You will soon be able to enjoy even small things
and life will open up to you with all abundance, there is no space left
Conflicts arise because we need to deal with people and circumstances and
then it shows up that these are not what we would like it to be. We have
a specific view, a standpoint gained throughout our life. We are identified
with it, it forms our personality and we are holding tied on this and defend
it. Other people have their own specific position and do the same, so when
not being able to confirm each other, then conflicts occur. Having the
need to come nearer together in spite of the differences, we suffer and
try to bridge the gape, finding something common which connects us. This
might lay on an deeper level and makes the separating facts less important.
In this process coming nearer to our own source...
differences are part of the personality and as more we clear up ourselves,
as more we can see where conflicts come from and we will be able to solve
these more easy, being able to go beyond our limiting conditions.
do you fight anger?
fight against your anger! It is widely known that mostly when you fight
against something then you make it stronger if you can't eliminate it totally.
So what is a better solution?
Anger is a reaction.
Right? So why one is reacting? First it might be good to be aware of the
anger when it arises, then maybe realizing, that what provokes it on the
outside, mostly people or circumstances or situations, is not the real
reason. The real reason lays within oneself. Mostly because the concept,
ones self image, dreams and illusions are not met by daily reality. What
shows up in our daily life situations is not what we would like it to be
or a person is not responding to us or behaving in the way we would like
it. It also might happen that we don't succeed in something we want. Then
we react with anger, directed to the outside or ourselves. Being aware
of our own conditioning, we can decide, if we really want to hold on this,
realizing that it limits us, then we might want to drop this, now being
able for this to do, because we are conscious about our condition, maybe
formed long ago through education or other influences.
Attention Deficit Disorder?
I'm a candidate
for one of those new drugs they have out on the market for it, but I refuse
to take those kinds of chemicals which just cut some symptoms, but have
side effects which on the long run make it even worse...
I wouldn't take
any of those drugs, I don't think this will really help, it is just suppressing
the problem and then it might show up on another level where you need more
chemicals, going into a spiral of suffering.
I didn't know that
they put a name on this kind of problem. But I know what it is: I have
suffered all my life from it.
I was mostly left
alone even as a little baby, because my mother was working all day, I also
was growing up without father, being alone nearly all the time or sometimes
I had malicious baby sitters... I have been alone nearly all my life. And
Adult attention deficit
disorder: The last days I felt pretty bad, the place is full of people,
nobody ask me if I need something. My shoulders are hurting and I hardly
can lift something, nobody ask me to carry some boxes of fire wood for
me, etc. etc. Today somebody called me when they came back from the daily
trip and told me that they brought a lot of clothing. So I went there and
all the people had already selected armful of stuff for themselves, there
were some woolen hand knitted socks left, three pairs and a lot of woolen
very beautiful gloves. I said that I don't want anything else but that
I will take the socks, because I have only one pair of thick woolen socks
which I am wearing since two months. Then I was told that I can only have
one pair, because the other people also are wanting them.
I through them back
and left and I didn't feel that I wanted to go to have dinner with these
people. Now I sit here with cold feet because my fire is out and it is
I am thinking about
dropping the whole community intention. Probably this all is part of my
'attention deficit disorder'.
I am working since
thirty years on this project, twenty years pretty alone, or just with paid
workers, often I was working fifteen hours a day, sweating, suffering,
without vacation for years, without diversion or entertainment. Then nearly
being killed, being robbed and betrayed several times, etc.
Suffering since several
years from Fibromyalgia as a result of years long stress and hard work
and accidents caused by other people and then I am being told that I only
can have one pair of socks!!! I am getting older, I have no health insurance,
no social security, no savings... I don't care, I can live under a bridge,
I can survive in any situation, but feel alone and I don't see that this
will change. This sounds sad, but I have no depressions, but I am questioning
the situation and my doing and ask myself if I want to live in a group
of people but still feeling and being alone, then I better live alone...
So far my deficit disorder...
So what I am expressing
here comes out of my 'Adult attention deficit disorder' what means that
it is subjective and colored because of this deficit, but that's how it
feels to me and so this is real to me. Of course from outside it looks
different and other people will see it differently. They just call me crazy,
putting me in a box and that's it. Who really sees me? People are interested
in themselves and only in others if they receive confirmation from them.
I don't want to depend
with my well-being on others and observing myself I can see that indeed
I do not depend anymore: I feel well and quite happy with what I am and
where I'm at this moment. Still some nasty people can disturb this, but
not too much, at least they can't provoke me anymore that I react, because
I know that they will only use my reaction for their own purpose.
So then let's see
if we can find a creative solution... So that you can stop drinking or
whatever you do to overcome your depressive feelings and I can stop feeling
alone! By the way: I ask myself: Who doesn't have this 'Adult attention
deficit disorder'? When I look around then it seems to me that there are
very few people without it.
If the intention of
my writing would be that I get some attention to compensate my 'deficit
disorder', then I must be very disappointed, because there are in general
hardly comments to my writings. I'm wrong: There was once a comment, telling
me that I am negative and judging people. - I was always pretty convinced
that life is not just a joke, but indeed sometimes I just feel like a joker,
- maybe that's my way to survive in this not so funny daily reality...
By the way: I feel
that I'm healed from my AADD.
is the best way to kill myself?
The best way is to let it happen by itself, like the normal people do:
Just live like every body. Breath polluted air, drink contaminated water
or with chemicals enriched sugar drinks, eat the normal junk food, have
a lot of stress being in the rat race, joining goals offered by this society,
which just manipulate people to spend their money, Buy a house with credit,
marry and have children. Just do the usual things...
It will not last long,
then you will get sick, that's the moment when you can decide: You can
go in treatment with the established health system, which will cause a
long way of suffering until you finally die or you can die without help
- or you can heal yourself and die healthy and happy. That's an interesting
and challenging process and will need your whole engagement because it
involves your whole existence; you need to find out about all your aspects
of your being. Not only the body, but also your emotions, your mind and
other levels going beyond all what you have experienced until now. Indeed
fascinating! And the result might be, that you will be completely healed
and are able to die healthy and without suffering.
That's one way, the
other is that you start right now to ask yourself some questions and find
out why you want to kill yourself. If something is nothing worth, then
you might throw it away and then after you find out, that indeed it had
a value you didn't recognize but then it was lost... So better be careful
and do some effort before you do something that is definitely. Your decision
might come out of accumulated anger, frustration and disappointment. Why
this has accumulated? Was it because your dreams, illusions and your expectations
were not fulfilled? From where did you receive those images and concepts
and had made them to your own? These pictures had given you motivation
and going for it had given you energy, and then when reality did not meet
your expectations, then you got angry and this again and again... until
you came to the point to give up because your energy went down too much.
Better to look at the background and discover that those images doesn't
serve you, they can't give you real fulfillment and happiness, so then
why not look for better ones and go on? Take self responsibility and don't
depend on others and what is offered. Find out in the first place about
yourself, there is much more you will discover which will give you real
motivation and new energy. The key might be that you find new ways to express
yourself. You might have an artistic talent you don't know yet... It is
not about demonstrating to the outside who you are, then you will depend
on responses. First feel well with yourself, all the rest will follow,
but not the other way around.
Does this sound right?
Then find out more. Ask questions to yourself and then to others, you will
receive answers. Go on, try it...
down, doesn't it sometimes bother you to be ignored even though you don't
like to admit it?
Who doesn't want to be seen? Of course it bothers me when I'm ignored.
I had this experience many times in my life and often I was asking myself:
Am I invisible? How it is possible that some people totally ignore me?
Of course this bothered me.
You are right; it
probably has to do with being different. Indeed I always felt different
and still I am, more than ever before. But now it bothers me not that much,
I just observe it. I can understand why some people don't see me. If something
or some body is different, then there is something 'unknown' and this irritates
people, but they don't want to be irritated and the best way is to ignore.
I can say that over
the last years I didn't feel ignored in public, in contrary and that is
because I get in contact easily and talk to people as if I know them since
long and show my interest, this works and even with people when they are
busy and that is because I don't ignore them and that's what they are used,
so when I give them my attention, then of course they don't ignore me.
But it happens that I'm ignored some times when I talk in a group of people,
especially when it has to do with pointing out something personally what
goes against the self image of this person, then it shows that ignoring
what is said, is an effective defense. But then it happens when I point
this out, then the person ignores me totally or as a last defense leaves
So I guess being ignored
has a lot to do how one behaves and is treating others, even when not saying
anything, probably it is ones attitude one has established and what shows
just in ones face or body expression.
If one feels rebellious
or is angry or frustrated and so somehow doesn't want much contact with
people, then one will ignore people as felt too much and then one is not
attractive to others and also will be ignored. So changing ones inner condition
will change ones attitude and people will react differently.
does silence make people nervous?
Because people don't want to confront themselves: Silence gives them the
opportunity to be aware of themselves and this they try to avoid by keeping
themselves busy all the time. When they don't do something, then they still
keep their senses occupied by letting the radio or TV run. If there is
silence then they feel uncomfortable as if falling into a void. If they
can't keep their senses occupied then they think, having fantasies of all
kind, but they hardly think about themselves or they are aware of their
emotions. People are filled with accumulated anger and frustration, being
in silence then all this might come up, so silence must be avoided. The
pressure of the inside load is strong and needs to escape, mostly looking
for occasions when people confronting outside situations and others, then
they react and let their tension out, having a good reason by giving the
fault to the other or the circumstances. When in silence then this possibility
is not given and if emotional reactions are coming up, then the fault can't
be given to any body else than to oneself. So silence must be avoided.
If people would accept
silence and the thoughts and emotions showing up, then they could use this
to clean up their background, they could release their accumulated load.
But they don't know that this is possible and the common behavior and attitude
is to avoid any reflection about oneself. Unless one is somehow more advanced
in ones personal evolution and is questioning oneself. Then one might be
able to take silence and even look for it, for example walking in nature
or just sitting in a quiet place. One can even do it intentionally doing
various exercises, like yoga, Tai Chi etc. or one can do meditation or
a 'StressReleaseExercise' using silence in the most effective and creative
way. Then silence will not anymore make one nervous but give release and
relaxation. Unfortunately these possibilities are still widely unknown
or better said not yet integrated in peoples daily life and attitude; mainly
because there is resistance against every thing that can make them reflect
about themselves, like silence.
lovers, what dog made the biggest impact in your life?
I can say that all dogs I had in my life had an impact on me, I can't say
which one had the strongest. I loved them all and when they left me, there
have been five over the last thirty years, then it was always hard for
me to say good-bye to them and each of them I miss, but I can feel their
presence still in my heard. They were very personal and great characters,
each of them in their way. Now I live with two dogs and they are also very
special. I can't imagine that I could have been without my dogs all over
the years and I only can say that I appreciate having had them and still
have such giving friends...
me with my Husband???
I don't really want
an answer, I just want to pour my heart out...
My husband hurt me
last night. He threatened to break my hand and then he twisted my fingers
back... It really hurt! He also threatened to take my 8 month old daughter
away if I tried to leave him. I don't know what to do anymore!!! I do love
him and in a year's time, this is the third time ever he's hurt me.
There is no doubt that your husband is sick and for sure you should not
take his violent behavior any longer. As it seems not possible that he
changes, you need to leave him. He is too sick that he can stay reasonable
when you would talk to him and tell him that you want to leave. Don't do
it. Just leave and go somewhere he can't find you.
An other aspect is
that there is no coincident, you met him and were attracted to him for
I am convinced that
whatever happens in our life, is exactly what we need in our personal growing
process. If we can see it like this, then even heavy happenings will be
not just negative.
You are angry and
depressed, this is understandable, but this is alone your responsibility
and you need to work on this. You can't change your husband, but you can
change yourself. The first thing you can do is to observe your reactions.
You are getting angry, be aware of it when it happens. You don't need to
let it out, this is too provoking for your husband, he doesn't want you
to be angry and if you are then he is reacting violently. So observe your
anger and then you will see where it came from and what have caused it.
The same when you are depressed. You might see, that the reason is, that
things are different than you have expected them to be. You had dreams
and these were not fulfilled, because reality is different. Can you see
and accept it? You have a self-image you were trying to live and it was
not possible. Giving the fault to the outside and to others is no solution
although every body does it. There is a lot to reflect about, to question
yourself... This is a challenge and you might be ready to confront it.
In so far your difficult situation is the best what could happen, even
though it is painful and extremely difficult to deal with it. You are asked
to get out of dependencies to take self responsibility, accept the challenge!
This will also have
a positive influence on your husband, but probably not enough to heal him.
At least it might help you to leave him without provoking violence…
There is a lot more
to say, but you need to ask, first yourself and then others, - the answers
will come to you.
I hate my life. My
family all hates each other. I don't have friends anymore... It would be
nice just to talk to someone but i just have come to the conclusion that
the only person I can trust is Myself so I can't tell anyone. The few people
that I thought were trustworthy ....well I've come to find out their not.
I've tried everything. I have been painting a fake smile on my face but
I just can't anymore I'm Seriously depressed. I'm never thought I would
say this but I think I only have one option left... you all know what that
is. And don't tell me any phycoligiost junk cause I can't.... for certain
have given 65 answers in answers yahoo. I checks a few. Most of them are
very superficial, but you tried to keep yourself occupied.
Now with this question
for help it is obvious, that this is a call for getting more attention
than with your more or less silly answers. I don't think that is the right
and effective way as it is too much fake, although the need behind is present
What kind of help
do you expect? You wrote that you have tried 'everything', this is obviously
not the case. 'Painting a fake smile on your face' is not a valid intent.
You are depressed because you don't get what you want. So what is it you
really want? Clear up a few things, then you will see clear and your depression
will go away by itself.
You have no friends?
What you are doing about it?
You are right by saying
that the only person you can trust is yourself, but do you really trust
yourself? It doesn't look like, because then you wouldn't depend so much
on others. Get out of this dependency and find self trust and confidence.
Read some good questions
and answers and get something valid out of it. Go on!
PS: Instead writing
fake messages, you should write some poems, try it, it will give you more
satisfaction to express yourself in a subtle way... (Only through suffering
one becomes a poet!)
should I do if a smoker blows smoke in my face?
seems no doubt possible that this person is looking for your attention.
Now it depends very much who this person is, where you are at this moment
and what kind of relation ship you have with this person.
I guess that you don't
like the smoke in your face, so it is a provocation to which you probably
react. That is all right and it is good if you observe your reaction and
adapt it to the situation and the other person.
It might be a provocation
from an other man to make you angry and if you express your anger, then
it is possible that this man uses this to react even stronger and for example
beats you up. So better keep your anger and withdraw yourself, unless you
are a champion in boxing and karate, then ask this man what he wants and
why he is provoking you. If it is a woman who provokes you, then she might
want to break through your reserve. If you like her then you can respond
by expressing yourself openly or if you don't like her, then just tell
You see, there are
many possibilities to respond and it is the best to relate to the situation
and person, being conscious about your own reactions and then reacting
in the best way possible.
the best solution for someone stressed or angry?
best solution is to solve the problem in its roots, so finding out the
real cause and not just dealing with the symptom. Being angry or stressed
is a reaction of ones system. Why one is reacting? Probably because the
appearing outside cause is a provocation for ones individual condition.
The only way to change this is to find out about ones unconscious background
structure which is causing the reaction. Is it because ones self image
and concepts doesn't meet with reality showing up in daily life? Are ones
expectations not fulfilled? Probably you need to change your attitude first
and understand that whatever appears in daily life is a challenge and urging
you to relate and respond in a responsible way, what means to get out of
dependencies, outside and inside. Go for it! It is exciting and creative.
lost my motivation!I
don't want to study anymore. I wish that I can drop out of school. I am
too ashamed to face...
out of dependency! You exist and this is precious. Give it value in the
first place. Find your well being within yourself, then you will not depend
on others and not so easily influenced in your mood. Gaining self confidence
you will find friends who appreciate you. You are not a failure! You do
your best even though other people laugh. You are disappointed now because
of the behavior of others, not accepting you how you are. There is no reason
to be ashamed because you are not completing the a norm or the expectation
of others. Life and what ever shows up is a challenge which helps us to
grow beyond limited concepts and self images. Find out about yourself and
that there is a space within yourself which is calm and happy! Society
tells you something different, that you need things and certain knowledge,
etc. Don't trust this, there are other values... Go for it!
do I get myself out of bed and motivated to get things done?Help
to get up and go is nowhere to be found! I just can't get going. Help!
that you are in this condition for a reason. It is a transition. You will
get out of it. Ask yourself questions. The answers will show up and guide
you out of the present state. Accept your condition, being aware that you
are disappointed not receiving what you want. Be aware that you have expectations.
These might be not realistic. It might be that you are conditioned by influences,
get out of these dependencies! Trust that you get the help you need, but
know that you are the one who need to act to help yourself! Whatever shows
up is a challenge! Accept it and deal with it. You will see that you can
succeed and this will give you satisfaction! Don't give up! Enjoy little
things and go for it! One step after the other! You have the power to make
decisions, try it, you will see...
do I start a new relationship with a Higher Power?
Considering that my
current relationship sucks out loud? Every time I try to be open, elements
from my old relationship creep back in... and that's not cool because essentially,
that relationship was toxic as could be, and full of fear, and distrust.
Any suggestions? All faiths welcomed.
up your unconscious background, which is formed by the conditioning of
your past with all the traumas you had and also the lacks in your youth,
the distortion of education and influences from society and every thing
what you have received through people and surrounding. Be aware, that the
dilemma is, that all this is part of your personality you are identified
with and the human nature is, that this builds your 'personality' which
must be defended against any change as it gives you a kind of security
and gives you the feeling of existence. This is limited and holds you trapped,
but it is in this state the only what you have. To go beyond this limited
state, the best is a gentle way and this is given through 'meditation'
or you can do the 'Stress Release Exercise' which is easy to do and very
effective. Go to: http://falconblanco.com/release
Doing this exercise
will open you up to a 'higher power' and you can leave behind those 'toxic
Stem Cell to grow Teeth?
I have just found
out about the use of stem cell to grow teeth and just wondering when will
it be release to the general public. Dam it I can't wait much longer. NEED
I started to investigate about growing third teeth and I read also about
the Stem Cells. I have the impression that this will need much more time.
They are still looking for money for their research...
I don't want to wait
for ten years or more and also I don't want to depend on the health system
with their teeth repairer.
We must find another
way. I have heard that in China is a tribe or village, where they know
how to grow third teeth. Is there anybody who knows about this? I would
travel to China if I know where it is.
How about EFT? I had
surprising results with it in various occasions. I will try it now with
my teeth growing intention.
EFT helped me to heal
my inguinal hernia without surgery and all and every body had said only
surgery could repair it. This is not true and so I don't believe in anything
'authorities' are telling! I broke my food and was told it needed surgery.
I rejected this and my foot healed perfectly without it. I had Fibromyalgia
and was told that there is no cure and I must live with it, describing
me painkiller. I refused this and investigated myself and then treated
myself. After one year I was totally healed. So why should I believe that
teeth can't grow again? Yes, people think I'm crazy just because I swim
against the stream. I don't care what people think about me, I do what
So let's do our own
am 5'0 and I weight 160. I really want to go back to 120 which is the required
I know I need to cut
sugars, bread, etc. But what's exactly a diet and how do you run? I don't
The information you give is not enough to know what might be the cause
for your overweight.
I guess that it is
not your diet, there will be probably an underlying reason. So you must
find out about this first, other wise what ever diet you follow, will not
have success or you will gain weight pretty soon again.
That you cut down
sugar, bread, meat, fat, etc. for sure helps some how, but what is the
Do you have enough
exercises? What is your profession? Do you sit for many hours or are you
doing hard physical work? If you don't move enough, then you need exercises,
you need to work out.
It depends how old
you are and how long you are in this condition.
If the cause is not
your diet and not the lack of exercises, then the cause might be, that
there is an emotional problem. Are you capable to express your feeling
in daily life and with the people around you? Or are you too vulnerable
and are easily hurt? Then this might be the cause: You are protecting yourself
with an armor of fat and you can't be without this, so the protection will
build up again when you loose it. Then the solution only can come if you
work on your emotions and become independent from others, being able to
express yourself freely without fear to be hurt.
can I practice meditation and does it really help me with my problems?
Meditation is the most effective to rise your awareness, which is the most
important to answer any question in your life.
If you have the urge
to meditate then it is possible that you come to a meditative state just
by sitting down... But then often falling into an old pattern of doing,
which might not be possible to avoid, because one is not aware of it. So
you are right to ask for help. I will give you now advice how to meditate,
so after this you can just start with it. There is no ritual necessary
just plain information and a clear advice.
One can meditate anywhere
at any time under any conditions. To start with one might choose favorable
conditions. Find a quiet place where you can be without being disturbed
by too much noise or other influences. You shouldn't be under the effect
of alcohol or any kind of drugs; you shouldn't be too tired or exhausted.
Then if you sit comfortably, if possible with a straight back, you can
begin. Twenty minutes at each meditation is enough, you can do it twice
a day: in the morning and in the evening. But at least once a day and this
every day. Every day!! Maybe you will need to force yourself a little bit
the first few days, but then after three weeks it will be an established
habit and you will do it, not wanting to miss it anymore.
Sit down and close
your eyes. You are comfortable?
You don't need to
do anything, nothing at all!! You just sit there and - you are aware of
it... What means that you are aware of your body sitting there. You might
be aware of the silence or some noise in the far background. But you don't
do anything! You are just aware of what is there. You don't focus or concentrate
on it, you are just aware of it, - nothing else. Then what might happen
is that you suddenly are aware that you got lost in some thoughts, what
means that you went into thoughts about something, it doesn't matter what
this is. That is all right and part of the meditation. What means that
you don't want to avoid thoughts or any feelings, you don't suppress what
comes up. Just let it happen, without judging it or giving any special
importance to it. Just let it happen... and observe it. So there is a little
tip which will help so that you don't go constantly from one thought into
another: The moment when you are aware that you are thinking, then you
just switch to being aware of your breathing. The same: You don't focus
or concentrate on your breathing, you are just aware of it. Without wanting
to do anything about it, just observe it! This might go on for a while
and then again you find yourself lost in some thoughts. That's all right!
So then you go back to observing your breathing. And so on and on... Then
it might happen that there are moments when there are no thoughts and no
awareness of yourself or your surrounding and it seems you were falling
into a sleep. This too is all right, don't worry about it, if you were
really falling into a sleep, then you will wake up soon, probably you were
relaxing and needed it... Just be aware of yourself and the state of being
you are now. Maybe you are indeed more relaxed or whatever... So you get
up and go to your daily work...
Remember: If there
is any problem showing up, the best is you read my advice again and then
meditate again. If it still doesn't seem to work, then you can write an
email to me and I will answer as soon as possible. If you are having difficulties
and you feel uncomfortable and in turn want to stop meditating, just ask
you find it more beneficial to meditate in the morning or evening?
is the most beneficial to meditate in the morning AND and in the evening.
If for some reason your schedule doesn't allow to do both, then do it when
it fits best. Being that busy you might find in between some additional
time, for example in the waiting room of the dentist, the rest room, waiting
for a telephone connection, waiting at the traffic light or just a few
minutes or seconds between two conferences. If you are so busy that even
for this there is no space available, then at least take once and a while
a deep breath in a meditative way or if there is no time for this, then
at least a short one with the same intention.
do you find it most rewarding to meditate?
is the most beneficial to meditate in the morning to start the day in the
right condition and in the evening to close the day and go to sleep relaxed
not carrying stress into ones dreams. If for some reason your schedule
doesn't allow to do both, then do it when it fits best. Being that busy
you might find in between some additional time, for example in the waiting
room of the dentist, the rest room, waiting for a telephone connection,
being trapped in the elevator, waiting at the traffic light or just a few
minutes or seconds between two conferences or whatever is your occupation.
If you are so busy that even for this there is no space available, then
at least take once and a while a deep breath in a meditative way or if
there is no time for this, then at least a short one with the same intention.
Depending on the time you have been meditating, after some decades you
will be in a meditative state whatever you do, wherever you are, - awaken
and relating and responding in the most alert and conscious way...
the real essence of self-awareness, and how to increase this aspect of
The real essence of self-awareness is awareness, what means 'pure awareness'
not bound to 'personality', not even to an 'observer'. So pretty beyond
the evolutionary state of humans, not even desirable, although if not yet,
then probably soon included in the most sophisticated spiritual concept.
How to increase self-awareness?
Self-awareness increases by itself during life, it is the most essential
aspect of ones being and all development of all the other aspects leads
into the increasing of awareness, although there occur blockages that seem
to hinder the increasing, but these are obstacles which cause that energy
accumulates and then can force a transformation, what means the step from
one established condition into another more sublime.
To increase self-awareness
in the most effective way and helping all aspects of oneself to grow, one
can practice 'meditation'. One can do it by oneself, not depending on others
or any time or place. Information how to do it and help is available for
One aspect of personality
needs to be mentioned: Like all systems, also ones 'personality' has the
inbuilt tendency, to hold on ones established structure and is doing everything,
using all kind of tricks to survive and to defend oneself, this is inbuilt
from nature and so unconscious. So whatever is used to 'increase' the awareness
like meditation might be sabotaged and so rejected, by finding all kind
of good arguments. Don't let this become an obstacle, convince yourself
and just meditate!
es die Möglichkeit, alle Probleme die man hat, auf einmal zu lösen?Was
muß man dafür wissen und/oder können?
der Tat, es gibt die Möglichkeit seine Probleme auf einmal zu lösen.
Obwohl dieses ein langer Prozeß sein kann und mit viel Arbeit verbunden
ist. Der Schlüssel heißt: Selbsterkenntnis. Der Weg dazu
ist Fragen an sich selbst zu stellen und Selbstverantworung zu übernehmen.
Die Ursache für Probleme liegt nicht im Außen, wie allgemein
angenommen wird, sondern bei einem selbst. Warum sind wir enttäuscht
und frustriert und reagieren auf Situationen und Geschehnisse mit Ärger
oder Traurigkeit? Ist es nicht so, daß wir in unserem Selbstbild
bestätigt sein wollen, daß wir das Konzept welches wir von der
Welt und uns selbst haben, verwirklicht sehen wollen? Und da die Wirklichkeit
im täglichen Leben eine andere ist, reagieren wir und versuchen unser
etabliertes Bild zu verteidigen indem wir reagieren.
Wenn wir herausfinden,
daß alle Probleme dadurch verursacht werden, daß wir versuchen
unser Weltbild und unsere Wünsche in diesem Zusammenhang zu verwirklichen,
kann es sein, daß wir unsere Abhängigkeit und unsere Konditionierung
erkennen und dann in einem Entscheidungsschritt darüber hinausgehen.
Dieses kann die Auflösung aller unserer Probleme bedeuten. Was nicht
heißt, daß wir den Sinn am Leben verlieren; im Gegenteil: Wir
sind in der Lage, uns an dem zu erfreuen was uns entgegentritt, indem wir
es als Herausforderung betrachten und als Möglichkeit zum Wachsen.
Wir müssen Unbekanntes nicht abweisen und uns dessen erwehren, sondern
wir können direkten Bezug nehmen und frei von Konditionierungen darauf
eingehen. Allerdings sind fast alle Menschen im gegenwärtigen Stand
der Evolution kaum dazu in der Lage, obwohl die latente Fähigkeit
und das erforderliche Bewußtsein für diesen Schritt vorhanden
you ever thought about how you'd like to die?
Scary thought isn't
it!! Yeah, but I'd like to die in a plane crash when I'm traveling all
alone... Tell me, how would you like to die.
would like to die feeling good about what I have done during life time
and seeing that my intention had a positive result enjoying it looking
Although it is possible
that my intention, I'm still being occupied with, will not succeed and
so I will never die... or I understand that the intention counts and that
the learning process trying it was more important than the result I had
with my goal.
can I do to make the world a better place?
Take self responsibility, get out of dependencies. To be able to do this
you need to get to know yourself. Learn about human nature and be aware
how much you are conditioned by this and by society. Be aware how much
manipulation is happening, etc. Clear up the mess inside yourself. Ask
questions, question yourself, be critical to whatever shows up. Look behind
the appearance... Develop your intuition and do what feels right: Relating
and responding to what comes to you. Take action when it is needed.
There is quite a lot
you can do, you will find out yourself when you have discovered your abilities,
your talents and you can follow and trust the 'call from within'.
it were up to you, how would you spend $ 2,400,000,000,000 (2.4 trillion)
New estimates show
that the Iraq and Afghanistan wars will end up costing the United States
- US 2.4 trillion dollars.
question details include already the best answer, there is no better answer
until now to your question.
Thinking about it
I would suggest to spend the money to introduce the 'StressReleaseExercise'
all over the world, to every body, starting in schools with kids from the
beginning. Making it to a part of ones daily routines, every where: in
companies, hospitals, police stations, government administrations, public
services, universities, every where. This would be without doubt the most
effective to have a positive impact to the awareness of all people. Getting
out of dependencies and taking self responsibility. That's the only thing
that could have the power to change something about the world situation,
much more than solar panels on the roof.
This would need only
a small percentage of the money you 'offer', but unfortunately there is
hardly anybody who want to support this intention and so this possibility
is not used.
I do my best to spread
out information about meditation and the 'StressReleaseExercise'. I don't
need money to do so and use the means that are free, like this place...
One does not need
money to do something effective about ones situation and also not to change
the global situation. One need to start with oneself and this is the most
effective, although this is not what people want because it is also the
most unused and often most uncomfortable. No money can bring one to such
a step, only if one is really tired about one's rat race and being stuck
in a system where no exit seems possible. But there is indeed...
Although you are asking
a question that is based on a materialistic world view and on your belief
that money can do every thing, go on asking and new doors will open...
there is balance and freedom of mind?
Is "Balance," when
I feel completely confident and have no questions or completely without
doubt in my mind? Is this true freedom of mind?
sure that's not what it is. Freedom of mind is when one is not identified
with one's mind. You are in balance when you are the observer, when your
awareness is in the point between the two moving parts of the balance:
on one side there are the thoughts and on the other side there are the
emotions, coming and going. The balance moves all the time up and down
but the middle doesn't move at all. As long you are identified with your
thoughts and emotions, you are not in 'balance', but the center is always
in balance. The reactions: thoughts and emotions can't put the center out
of balance. The quality of your feelings, being confident or not or if
you have doubts in your mind or you have established concepts, doesn't
really matter. This might cause that the balance gets stuck but I think
you got the picture?
'Personality' or 'Ego'
never really can be in balance because it exist by being identified with
the content of ups and downs of the two sides and so constantly feeling
good or bad...
Does this helps? If
not, continue asking.
important is 'self honesty'?
for what? To survive? For sure not, at least it is not practiced like this.
To go beyond the dishonesty which is the normal in our life, this would
be the most important to find out about ourselves and our true nature.
But unfortunately the less practiced in the present state of humanity.
First we should realize that we are all liars, although we have adapted
the self image of being honest, pretending to be something we are not.
We are educated to be honest, but this is a cover, hiding the true nature
of humans, using tricks to survive...
So for sure the first
thing is to admit and realize that we are not honest, not with ourselves
and not with others. Then we might be able to look behind and go beyond
our established self image and find out more...
This will be disappointing
and shutter our world view, but will free ourselves and open new horizons...
the human race be destroyed?
I can understand your anger about what goes on with humanity and that they
destroy the planet and themselves...
But destroying humanity
would mean 'to pour out the bathing water with the baby'... Shouldn't we
better ask why we are in this situation? Isn't it caused by ourselves?
By you and me? So then what can we do about it? Being angry and finding
a fault at the outside and others is the normal behavior of most and might
be one of the reasons why we are where we are! So why not starting with
ourselves changing the conditions? Are not our established habits and our
attitudes the reason? Isn't it because we are not behaving responsible
and are in dependency? The first step might be to take self responsibility
and get out of dependencies. Starting to be critical about what we have
been told about what we should believe, what is good for us, how we should
behave, what we should ... If we are tired to be slaves, buying what we
are told, thinking what we are taught, then we might come to the point
where we make a decision...
We might need to admit
that we are still on a very primitive state of evolution, we are not the
crown of existence, probably far away of this, but we are alive and we
are conscious about this, so we should start here... We have the choice
and we have enough power to decide.
No! The situation is disastrous but we can take it as a challenge and go
ahead, using our abilities and make the best out of it. What can we loose
doing so? Nothing! We only can win, so let's do it!!!
knowledge objective? Is truth objective?
The fact of being in a certain condition is coming out of influences, the
result is a fact and objective and does not depend on an observer, although
the condition must not be stable and can even change by the influence of
an observer. There is no lasting condition it only exists as a fact in
the middle between past and future. There is no 'truth' in a fact, as 'truth'
depends on some one who judges out of ones own condition. Or one can call
it 'absolute truth', then it is just the pure fact of being. Objectivity
also depends on some one who is observing and judging. If this one is human
and so bound to senses and ones conditioning, then there can't be any thing
Knowledge can't be
objective as always bound to a limited personal condition.
There might exist
states of being human, when the 'knowledge' is transcended, meaning that
the individual has realized a truth by 'being' it, with this going beyond
'knowledge', which is bound to mind and emotions. This experience can be
called 'objective', but when expressed and received by others the words
used to describe will be instantly be interpreted and made to ones own
truth, that is subjective because depending on ones individual condition.
So 'knowledge' might in extremely rare individuals be 'objective', depending
on the personal realization, but only if it is kept and not expressed and
shared on an intellectual level.
As long as the observer
is a conglomerate out of concepts (called ‘knowledge’), beliefs, dreams,
images, used to form ones personality and being identified with it, as
long these properties dominate, there is no objective truth and no knowledge
going beyond ones own limitation.
There might arise
the question: If there exist a state of being and the experience of 'objective
truth' then how can one reach this out of ones limited condition? What
can one do to get out of ones limitations to reach 'truth'? Yes, there
are ways, but you need to be open for it, not wanting to hold on your established
conditions, defending these with all means… the first step would be that
you ask questions by yourself, - coming out of questioning yourself. So
is awareness 'realized'?
is 'realized' by being aware. That simple.
There is no quantity
of awareness, not even quality. You can't it make more or better. You can
use the awareness you have to be aware, that's all. Now it depends where
you focus and how you are using your established old tricks to do the same
and always... Maybe you should focus your awareness to this! Or better
not because then you would find out, - become aware - that you are still
in the trap of your precious personality, although you have the self image,
that you left this behind and are in fields of high and superior awareness.
You are not asking
about awareness, you are asking how to realize your concept about awareness,
a high pitched state, which is your goal. Here it shows, that you are still
in your personality trap, turning around yourself and looking for confirmation
by giving 'best answers'. Your questions and answers indeed are excellent,
but as more sophisticated they are, as more difficult it is to be aware
of the trick your personality is using to hold you tied... Be aware of
it and you will be free! But don't worry, do your daily meditation and
the rest will follow...
Six and a Half BILLION people residing on this planet is there not ONE
who can say they have seen GOD?
There is the scientific proof that 'God' exist. Or let's better say: If
there is the scientific proof that 'God' exist, then how can this be proofed?
I scientific can explain it, but then it depends totally on the person
who receives the information, to understand the words used and to integrate
them into ones own knowledge 'data bank', comparing it with the already
stored information and being able to draw a result out of it. This needs
a trained capability for which a non-scientific will not be able. So there's
no way a scientific can reach one who might be familiar with some facts,
but is not able to use a trained abstract thinking. So when one asks the
scientific to explain the existence of ‘God’ then knowing that he can't
explain it to a non-scientific person, he will probably smile and say something
trivial or nothing. Do you remember Albert Einstein? He seemed to be a
simple believer like others, but he came to a realized experience because
he had his scientific proof of ‘God’ even though not being able to share
Mathematics can explain
the basics to a fife years old kid, but probably this is all, logarithm
and other advanced levels are out of reach for the infant. A non-scientific
is like a kid, even though grown up, is not capable to grasp any scientific
information and also not about the existence of 'God' or whatever word
one might use to describe the same...
Not yet clear? Then
let me use another example: A three years old girl loves her doll and the
same age old boy loves his teddy bear. For them this is not a toy, it is
alive and helps them to go to sleep holding it in their arms and it will
make that the child learns to have affections and starts to express them,
taking care of the loved 'toy'. Take away the doll or the teddy bear and
tell the child that this is not alive and only plastic and you might open
the teddy and show that there's only wood wool in it. If you go further
and rip of the head, then you can do serious damage, which can cause a
trauma for all life and influence and disturb all kind of relationships
in the adult future. So better leave the child with the belief that the
teddy bear is real and alive. The child needs it for their personal development;
the time will come when it will leave the teddy and change to practice
the same having done with the toy then with people.
There is only one
serious difference: The children will not get stuck and hold on their projections
to their doll and teddy bear, but this is because it belongs to the growing
cycle, while with ‘adults’ the holding on a belief or concept might last
all life time, holding the individual in a frame of concepts and belief
systems and the tragically side effect is, that the established concepts
inhibit the realization of it. Unless one is really tired of ones worn
out concepts, starts to be critical and questions oneself and every thing
of one was influenced. Then realizing that one was dependent and even manipulated
by others who had their benefit out of this. One might make a decision
and take self responsibility. One will come to this point through out the
training of life, if not in this one then the next one…
It is for sure that
there is a growing force within each of us, this is easy to understand
just by observing nature around and then we will recognize it also within
ourselves. We will be able to give space, trust it and then listen to it.
We don't need to give it a name, because then we have realized it by ‘being’
it and that's the only real way to proof it for oneself.
There are ways to
help oneself to open up and allow letting go of worn out conditions… I
have already written about it here and you will find it looking for it…
is soul? Are you a soul in your body?
We are so much used
to value every thing in material terms and also mind and emotions are in
a certain way material. There every thing can be measured and proofed.
In so far a 'soul' does not exist, there is no way to proof the contrary.
That people believe things, are identified with it, make it to their intellectual
and emotional property, defend it, die for it, etc. is no proof at all.
But yes, there is something that goes beyond the material and body aspects.
There is some sort of 'longing', a kind of 'inner call' and this for sure
is not limited to the body or any material aspect. Also I know and I have
experienced it in meditation, that there are spaces that are beyond the
body, mind and emotions and for sure not bound to the material forms and
not to the body, although we live mainly on this level and use it to express
ourselves. One day maybe we will be capable to express from a level beyond.
I have the impression that some artists can do so, I receive this in some
poems and also in music. This feeling gives me trust and I can be calm
and don't have the need for religious or spiritual concepts... To answer
the question: "Are you a soul in your body?" we first need to find out
who we are, who we really are and this will answer it.
"Soul" is a word, representing a concept. Where this concept came from
is hard to find out, as it exist quite some time. Probably it came out
as expression from someone who had an experience, which was going beyond
the experience transmitted through the senses. Or it came from fantasies
and the need to protect from the unknown by giving sense and a new dimension
one could believe in. Who knows? One can join the traditional concept,
part of religions or other traditional beliefs, or one can quest all this
and do ones own investigation by asking questions to oneself: Who I am?
Obviously I am the body and I am my thoughts and my feelings. What else?
Bomoon is right: There is something else and this goes beyond the daily
life experience and can't be sensed if one is totally caught in material
aspects or in concepts about whatever. So even every body has this 'longing'
for more, hardly anybody dares to go into this question because this goes
into something unknown, this is frightening and so will be avoided and
rejected. Unless one is really tired of struggling and turning around oneself
and the daily frustrating reality.
come out of any intellectual explication what 'soul' might be. The concepts
about it are established and described in many words, what is needed is
a direct and vivid experience of ones own 'soul'. Can one gain this? Yes!
How? This can't be
a goal one can reach by doing certain things or being in a certain way
or trying to live and fulfill a specific concept, although there is an
exercise, if one want to call it like this and this is 'meditation'. Helping
to go beyond thoughts and feelings, having the experience of 'having a
soul'. Although I am convinced that this is also possible by living ones
daily life by relating and responding out of ones awareness as good as
one is capable (although meditation helps a lot, not only relaxes and so
furthers ones awareness, but also opens to new fields...) What will guide
to self responsibility and one will get out of dependencies and worn out
concepts and self images. One will not need to find confirmation for ones
existence anymore, one can enjoy ones being all together with ones body,
feeling and mind, as ones existence is not limited to this and one has
the direct experience with another dimension, it doesn't matter how one
will call it.
change is always resisted in organizations?
It seems that development
in any direction is so difficult because there is so much resistance to
any kind of change. Why is this so?
systems, from the simple cell to the biggest organizations, have resistance
against a change. This is part of the inbuilt survival mechanism; otherwise
the system would easily fall apart or is vulnerable against influences
coming from the outside. The once established structure, grown over long
time, gives stability and so security, from which individuals within this
system, gain their own profit by being part and identified with it. Personality
is a system, which functions in the same way: The individual is identified
with the once established structure; build by mental concepts and all intellectual
knowledge. The same with the emotional structure, which is mostly unconscious
and contains all traumas and received influences during lifetime. From
this background reactions are triggered, reforcing the established structure.
Part of the system is the material form, with which the individual also
is identified and the same with all material belongings. The tendency is
to add more and more, getting richer or widening ones power by adding more
knowledge or emotional excitement. Anything is welcome which serves to
make the system more stable and secure. The individual does anything to
get confirmation for its existence on all levels, mostly all doing is directed
A change that will
not enrich or confirm the system in its existence will be rejected. Even
though a change would be an evolution step and bring the system to a more
advanced level, what might be called a transformational change. By doing
this step, resistance and other obstacles might vanish, but to do such
a step, the system must grow by itself beyond ones limitation through a
growing process, which includes all levels of ones being. Manipulation
or force, which is usual used, will not work on the long run... How to
make a transformational change happen, is another question. There are ways
to support and help, but the system must be ready for it.
stupid, ignorant people are happier then conscious ones?
Stupid people do not
see world as suffering and if they suffer they can be comforted by ridiculous
things like religions, god, superstitions, social brainwashing (e.g. life
is what u make it, u need to keep positive, etc...)
People, who see things
as they are, see lots of suffering and pain in this world. They can't be
comforted easily. Some like Buddha will give you ideas that are hard to
follow e.g. do not attach to anything and do not desire anything in your
Why is that paradox
that people with less brain are better off in this world?
To answer your question depends very much on where you are and where do
you see yourself: As stupid, ignorant and with less brain, representing
the huge majority or as the other extremely rare individuals like Buddha
and a few more, being beyond the average humans. (Probably there will be
others in between who haven't yet decided and still are a mixture of ignorant
and lucid...) If your view is that people with less brain are better off
in this world, then I guess that you belong to the majority. The
fact that you posted this question many times to different categories seems
to confirm this, but I will check your profile and your other q&A.
I looked at it and
I see that you are new here at ‘answers’. You used half of your points
to post the same question all over the place. Pretty silly isn't it? Well,
let's say that you are just ignorant.
Now as it is obvious
that you belong to the first group, believing that you are better off,
so I don't want to disturb you in your established state of being, because
this, as you wrote it, would cause you suffering and pain and for sure
I don't want give this to you.
But are you really
‘happy’? And as you can't know anything about the happiness of conscious
people, whatever you see is just an interpretation from your own limited
stand point, - so you can decide to stay where you are and better don't
read all the answers you will receive, or you take the risk and continue
reading, maybe really reflecting about it. Anyway you will only be open
for that what you want to receive, the rest or the most you will not see,
that's why people are ‘ignorant’, that's the best defense. If this doesn't
work anymore, then you can react with anger and find easily a reason to
give me the fault. Just the usual way you ignorant, happy people behave
in daily life.
In case that you don't
want to go on like this, then you might question yourself first and then
there might come out some essential questions and for sure you will get
an answer, here or from somewhere else. I would be happy to answer any
question you might have coming out of your new attitude, although I must
warn you in advance that my answers might open your eyes and then you will
see ‘things as they are’ as you wrote, which then would reduce your established
happiness or better said your established concept about happiness. But
this is up to you.
life's motto is...?
My life's motto is to relate and respond to every thing showing up in my
daily life circumstances in the best conscious and responsible way I am
capable, not feeling guilty if I make a mistake, understanding that all
which comes to me is a challenge and a step in my growing process, so being
able to be positive, even though things are tough... What brings me nearer
to reality, outside and inside.
do you think of this?
"NOthing last for
ever even HAPPY MEMORIES get forgotten as TIME pass"
secondary in so far as being happy occurs in the presence and does not
depend on the past and not on 'happy memories'. Being happy is the condition
in this very moment and depend only on ones emotional state and this is
the result of various influences and based and connected with ones whole
is your earliest memory?
Many people don't
believe me when I say I remember the first day I was born; just an instant.
I was snugly wrapped and a figure was putting me into a glass container.
I also remember the walls were a warm orange. I asked my mom was this true
and she surprisingly said yes. And you?
earliest memory was when I had to decide if I wanted to come back to be
born again on earth. I remember that this was a difficult situation, because
I know what would await me, I had experienced it before and it felt like
going back from light into darkness. It was an enormous conflict and painful,
I felt like been torn apart, but then I decided to go and that felt like
The next early memory
was also painful when I was still in the womb of my mother and when she
tried to abort me. I had to fight really strong and obviously I succeeded
because I was born. I remember the strong light in the hospital room where
I came out and this disturbed me. It might be that because of this my eyes
all my life were sensitive and not so strong.
Well, these were my
first memories. Maybe it sounds strange, but it is also true.
are the guidelines in making a good poem?
you want to 'make' poems? Is it because you have the urge to express yourself?
That might be the
first condition to write a good poem. But it is clear that you need to
have something to express. What is it? Your thoughts, your feelings? Why
in form of a poem?
The next condition
would be for a good poem that you give your poem a form. Verses with a
certain line length, etc. There can be a rhyme and rhythm but not necessarily,
the spelling should be correct.
The next and probably
the most important condition is from where your inspiration to write poetry
comes from. If you write from your established intellectual knowledge and
world view, then even all other conditions are completed, your poetry will
be poor and not inspiring to the reader. So you will need to go beyond
your limited capacity and reach new horizons. That is real work because
you need to include your whole being, even those parts which are still
unknown to you and often are rejected as unwanted because these don't fit
into your self image. Go ahead, there's a lot to do, it's worthwhile and
you will also be able to enjoy it!
long would u live if cancer and coronary heart diseases were curable? Say
they will create treatments for most cancer types and coronary heart issues
causing heart arrests, etc. how long could one live and what could cause
You would live so long until you die, the cause would be the treatments
you are receiving, causing another disease and another or clocking you
up to such an extent that your system can't take more and give up.
Why this? Because
you and the whole medical system doesn't know what 'disease' really
is. They are treating the symptoms but they are not 'healing', causing
side effects with their medications and then giving medication for the
side effects... Who is interested to find out about the real cause of a
disease, the root cause?
Maybe 'disease' is
something completely different than the established knowledge is limited
to? Disease might not only caused by environmental reasons or ones nutrition
or whatever one takes in. These can be the reasons on one level, the physical,
but what about the mental and the emotional level? Yes, it is known that
an imbalance can cause a physical disease and so these levels are also
treated with medication. Oh boy!
But last not least:
There might be another level causing imbalance that lays beyond all the
other and what is not connected yet and because of this causing imbalance
and disease. Who is asking to find out? Are we on such a low evolutionary
state, that we need to suffer from so many diseases and being stuck in
a vicious circle, turning around ourselves, that we first have to suffer
to such an extreme, before we even question ourselves, our world view and
our attitudes and habits?
What is causing 'death'?
Are we really alive? Are zombies alive? So why you want to prolong your
state of being? Wake up, be alive, get out of dependencies and take self
responsibility! Then you would live the utmost and able heal yourself and
even find out, that 'death' is an illusion.
believes in life on other planets?
We know that there are an infinite number of galaxies out there and the
probability that we posses the only planet which has developed life is
so small that it would be just too silly to believe we are living on the
only one. Would accepting this mean that we are not the 'crown of creation'?
Better let's admit it, then after recognizing that humans are in a still
very primitive state, with all the destruction and self destruction going
on, because material aspects are the most important and nearly all what
humans are striving for and then we might realize that religious and spiritual
concepts are mainly a cover-up on top of selfish behavior. Seeing and experiencing
all this, one easily can fall into disappointment and depression, as there
seems no way out and no change possible.
Just the possibility
and this is more than probable, that there is life on other planets, can
give us some hope that it might be in our reach that there is a growing
process going on, although for us, in this short moment we can only oversee,
there seems no changes. We need to look very near to observe that indeed
there is some progress and this we can recognize best when we look at ourselves
being aware about our inner growing. This of course has its ups and downs
and we might need to observe for many years... Maybe at least twenty years...
or do you think that you are the same ignorant and silly person you have
been? Probably not, even though you might be more frustrated and disappointed
and will have lost some part of your illusions and blown up concepts...
Coming nearer to accept reality and let go some of your worries...
Well, this is a bit
off topic, so I better close.
PS: By the way: I'm
a visitor on this planet (so I can ensure you that there is life on other
planets!) and that makes it that I see things going on here clearer. So
if you want to ask me some questions, I will be happy to answer them.
Oops! I should have
made a smiley in my PS ;-) to make it clear that this was meant funny.
Now I'm accused to have a superiority complex and other horrible things
more. Well, people see what they want to see, it gives them the opportunity
to spit out what they had to swallow all life long...
do people on this section question others and their beliefs? If
you have no problem with others then why do you try to create one?
People question themselves and others, because they feel the urge to go
beyond their established concepts. They want a proof for their beliefs
and can't find it in their lives, so they need to provoke a situation where
they can maybe find an answer. Or they attack other beliefs to find confirmation
for their own. The same will serve who defend ones belief, so both sides
are going into a kind of game, using each other to find confirmation for
their own position. It is the simple thing with fighting, the one who wins
feels stronger and gets satisfaction out of it, feeling more secure and
feeling ones existence more. The one who is loosing also feels ones existence
more by suffering, probably reacting then with anger and so going into
the next fight with more energy.
isn't it? There is not much difference in getting into a street fight or
arguing here at the Internet with others. Until one becomes tired of these
games and reflects about them, maybe coming to more essential questions...
do comets seem to be sitting so still?
This is an interesting question, because it tells that we can't trust our
senses, we need to combine these with our critical attitude and information
we have gained and stored, although these also can give us fault conclusions,
so we never can be sure about what we see, hear or receive in general.
Our interpretation might be far away from reality... This indeed is not
funny because it is causing a lot of confusion and we waste a lot of energy
going for something that is not what it seems to be... Although from a
different view point, not being too much identified and stuck in ones doing,
one can see ones doing as a joke, because at the end there is nothing left,
after our ash has been thrown into the wind...
A fly passing in front
of your nose seems to be very fast, the same fly with the same speed but
ten meter away seems to fly very slow, but the same fly with same speed
100m away looks like as standing still in the air, you can also say 'sitting
in the air' even though there might be no cloud or other seat available.
You got it? For sure comets can't sit somewhere as they are flying much
faster than a fly and a seat in space is difficult to find.
is your definition of a 'normal person'?
Are there any normal
people left out there?
You should first answer this question by yourself, because what 'normal'
is depends totally on your view. Obviously you see yourself as 'normal'.
what is your self-image? Your wish is that every body else should be the
same, then you would be confirmed in your own image and feel comfortable.
My definition of a
'normal person' is that there is no 'normal'. Even in a group with the
most extreme behavior, their own view for them is 'normal'.
If one belongs to
the same world view and attitude of the majority of people, then the fact
that money and material aspects are of dominating importance in their life
and this then is 'normal'. The fact that people don't like to think and
reflect too much and don't like to make decisions out of their own responsibility
is 'normal'. The fact that people depend on authorities and believe in
them without having any doubts, this is 'normal'. The fact that people
don't ask questions and if they do then they expect an answer that fits
in their already established concepts, this is 'normal'.
Does this answer your
questions? If you now say: "Yeah, yes, somehow..." Then you are probably
a 'normal' person. If you say: "In contrary, this makes me think of many
more questions and especially questions I need to ask to myself..." Then
for sure you are not a 'normal person'.
a person change ones personality completely?
'Personality' is an illusion, created as part of the human condition and
nature in its momentary state of evolution. Personality is like moving
pictures projected to a screen. What you see seems to be real, people talking,
fighting, suffering, enjoying, etc. But these are only lights and shadows
on a flat and empty surface, although you see it in three dimensions and
as real. It is just an illusion of reality. You can go into it, engage
yourself, try to change something about the pictures you see. Or your personality
is changed through dramatic and traumatic influences, turning you upside
down. Whatever you do whatever happens to you, you are still caught in
your illusionary picture world, so keeping and holding your 'personality'.
Which of course is the most precious you have because you don't know anything
else, as you are bound and limited to it and you are even defending it
with all means. 'Personality' gives you the feeling of existence. You are
getting your satisfaction and meaning of life out of it. As much as you
explore and expanding it, you will still stay in your illusion, turning
around and around yourself. Gaining power or becoming spiritual, you are
in a cage created by yourself, imprisoned by yourself, being identified
with your 'personality', no matter into which dimensions you might have
changed, you are still stuck in your 'lousy personality'. You even might
have the concept to go 'beyond your personality' but with this just going
into a new more sophisticated dimension of illusion.
Is your question answered?
Any question more coming out of this?
HATE MY LIFE, someone please help me? I'm
asking myself why the heck am I even living for? My dad calls me bad names
and tells me that I won't do anything in life.
You can be thankful for the challenging situation in which you are. You
have the best condition to be forced to get out of dependency. If you feel
good or not only depends on you! Discover the value of 'existence' and
that you own the power to make decisions. It is up to you to create the
condition to be happy. Then you will like yourself and others will like
you. You are on a good way, what shows because you are asking questions.
Question yourself and you will get answers. You are doing well, go on...
can I help myself to be a happier person?
aware that you are trying to live your self image, which is different what
you feel when reacting to the reality you are encountering in your daily
life. Admit to yourself that you are pretending. Your sadness is a reaction
because you can't realize your self image, you can't close your eyes confronting
reality when you see that there is not much real happiness around and how
much people clinging on their limiting conditions and how much humans and
all the other beings on this planet are suffering and mostly caused by
Be clear about yourself
and the world and accept what is there, what doesn't mean you musts find
it good, but take it as part of what is there. Reactions happen through
your personality. You have lost part of it. Let it go and find spaces within
yourself which are not bound to images, concepts and beliefs. The best
to help yourself is to do the 'StressReleaseExercise'
twice a day. This is beneficial for your whole being. You will gain a new
view about the world and yourself. The space will open and new horizons
will be seen. You will not need to seek happiness, it will come by itself.
How to do the exercise
you can find out at my Web site. If you need further advice, you can ask
me. No belief system or money is involved.
very vain and hung up over my appearance, is there any point?
I'm a bpd and ptsd
sufferer, I'm 30 years old. My plight now is to recover from these illnesses...
accomplish a happy life... attain things I have never had.... a loving
woman... friends... move away from the uk to a nice hot place but the problem
is, I have prematurely aged quite bad, I'm an old 30, not a young looking
I'm bald, I have physical
imperfections, damaged nerves in my right knuckle... two missing teeth...
at the front, bottom row. I have torn ankle tendons in my right ankle...
I have a crooked little finger due to mallet finger, where I injured it.
My face has aged... dark lines under my eyes...
I'm trying to save
up for dental implants, but im worrying because its not like I will be
able to attract an attractive partner once I have worked on my problems.
Who will want me?
It's all about looks now, and looking young, having a full head of hair,
young skin, full set of teeth etc. Does anyone else have an opinion about
this or is aged & has imperfections?
boy, you are a typical victim of this society with their superficial self
images. Do you really believe that the physical is the most important?
I can't believe that you are that naive! If you think that no woman wants
you because you have some missing teeth, etc. then you have programmed
yourself in the poorest way possible and with this of course no woman wants
To change your established
self image you will need to work on this and that's real work and not that
easy as letting make an implant or putting a wick on your bald head.
When you are talking
about your healing, then the most important is that you heal yourself from
your attitude and your limited self image. That's the problem you need
to work on and for sure not your crooked little finger.
Oh boy, stop this
infantile games with yourself and grow up! You are ready for this!
do people need a label? Why
do people feel the need to define themselves with a label? Is it just me
that finds this silly?
People need labels, because this is part of human nature. Humans are conceptual
beings in the momentary state of evolution. They are identified with their
mind and the content of it. Words, ideas, concepts, beliefs, pictures and
images are 'labels' standing as a kind of symbol for the 'real' thing.
The dilemma is that the label inhibits to relate and respond to the reality
as the label is bound to the interpretation and established background
structure of the individual and so every thing showing up is filtered and
colored and not seen like it really is and so the response, if there is
any and not suppressed, then seldom is objective and not always adequate
So people move within
a picture world, that gives a certain frame and so security, but they move
like zombies, conditioned and limited to their own creation. Indeed pretty
silly, but that's the average condition of humans, although with the inbuilt
longing to get out of this cage and also the possibility.
animal scares you?
a certain animal scares you? Probably it is not the animal, but the image
you have build up about it and caring with you. So when you meet this animal
in reality or only as a though, then you are reacting with fear. Also it
can be that you had a scary experience with an animal and you are conditioned
by the shock, for example when a dog bit you as a child. Then you will
be afraid all your life long if you don't overcome the fear.
The difficulty is
that this fear is established and mostly unconscious and only shows up
as a reaction in certain situations triggered by the outside, in our case
by an animal. The person afraid of dogs will provoke dogs and it can then
easily happen that a dog, normally friendly will bite this person. Isn't
Once a young man came
to our place to help. He was strong and healthy and we were glad because
there was a lot of work to do. But the next morning he already left, because
our dog had growled at him and he was scared and left. Our dog is the most
friendly dog you can imagine and never has bitten anybody. This man came
to the right place with the best possibility to get rid of his fear. But
now he wasted this opportunity and will stay conditioned and limited in
his acting and behavior for long if not for the rest of his life. Pretty
silly isn't it? But that's how human nature is and so we need to deal with
it. Better in a creative way and free ourselves from fear and limiting
is the oldest (or strangest) thing in your fridge right now?
Inky Pinkie: There
is something strange in my fridge that I took over from other people who
had the fridge before. This 'thing' is in a plastic container and sealed,
but the plastic is transparent and I can look through. I can't identify
what it is. It looks like an embryo of an prehistoric creature. I have
it now in my fridge for more than three years and it seems to grow, well,
this might be my fantasy, because the container is nearly full. But for
sure the color is changing over the years. When I first saw it, the color
was orange with purple stripes, then the orange changed into red and the
stripes into black dots. Several months later in the middle of this 'thing'
appeared something like an eye, just starring at me. Really scaring. Sometimes
in the middle of the night I hear some noises coming from the fridge, as
if the 'thing' wants to get out. I don't know what to do. Shall I call
the emergency or the fire worker? I don't dare to open the fridge anymore,
the last time I did it an incredible strong smell came out and I nearly
fainted, so I have sealed the fridge, bought a new one and put the one
with the 'thing' into the garage. But then there were strong noises coming
from there and also an intense smell. So then I left my car in the street
and didn't use the garage anymore. But since a few days there comes a kind
of howling from the garage and I can't sleep in the night. The neighbors
start to complain and ask me if I have a wolf in my garage. I can't tell
them what it is, as I don't know myself. It is a mystery and probably I
need to keep it for myself. What do you think?
your thought on this quote?
"Jesus is God spelling
Himself out in language that men can understand."
-- S.D. Gordon
then what is it men really understand? Isn't it that they just change one
image against an other one? What do they with their 'understanding'? It
gives them something to chew on or a kind of security, protecting them
from a void they might otherwise fall into? With this 'understanding' they
receive advises how they should behave and they can hold the 'right' attitude,
holding guidelines they can follow. With this 'understanding' they can
follow an authority and don't need to take self responsibility, they can
stay in dependency, trusting an imaginary picture built up from projections
and unconscious needs. Holding on an infantile state of being and at the
same time pretending to have reached superiority. Meeting like minded others
with the same understanding and so being confirmed and strengthened in
ones own or fighting against other views and so making ones own position
untouchable, eliminating others views by forcing ones own ‘understanding’
on all around, gaining more power and of course using it for the ‘good
for all’ and all in the name of an ‘understanding’ that was brought to
men, - from where, from whom? There where the ‘understanding’ ends, there
one must ‘believe’… Oh boy!
Look around in what
state humanity is and where they have brought the whole planet with their
You had ask for my
question about the most essential for us 'humans' who are being alive,
difficult to answer because we can't grab it. We can't see it only the
outcome of it. If we know what it is, then probably also we would know
the origin of it.
Life makes that all
beings grow, but also that all and every thing changes constantly. There
seems destruction in changes, things disappear and there is transformation
from one form or state of being into an other one. Life appears to be in
a constant flow. Are there a beginning and an end, or goes it in circles?
When I look at my own circles when I turn around myself, repeating happenings
and the way I react to them, then it seems that my turning goes in a spiral
way, with less movements coming nearer to the center. What will happen
when I come to the center point, when I become the center? Will I remain
in silence, without any motion? The absolute center of a wheel doesn't
move, right? Maybe arriving there one will be in a new dimension? Beyond
any meaning, beyond any question, beyond any understanding? Just being
life, just being alive, without anymore question because all concepts are
left behind and the answer is realized...
Just my reflection.
is the stored perception about facts for conditions, situations, and positions.
This includes all levels that can be sensed and understood, so mainly the
outside that can be seen. The perception is bound and limited through the
personality and their already established knowledge, which consist in concepts,
so all new received impressions are integrated into the already existing
knowledge about it, so making the concept stronger and with it the personality.
'Knowledge' is an important part of ones self image, determining ones world
view and forming ones attitudes and behavior.
As 'knowledge' is
part of ones personality, so it is seen as ones property and will be defended.
It is often used to give self confirmation by going into discussions and
demonstrating ones knowledge, fighting against different opinions, etc.
Also writing books serves or participating in Internet groups. It often
shows, that the demonstrated 'knowledge' is superficial, so the owner might
be easily beaten by some one else, but then a wide scale of other ways
to defend oneself can be used. Going into irrational arguments, getting
angry, insulting the opponent, pointing out the weak spots in the other,
'Knowledge' is rarely
used to look at oneself, asking questions about ones behavior or other
aspects of ones existence. If done, then the awareness of oneself will
guide one to 'self knowledge' and then this kind of 'knowledge' will guide
one to levels laying beyond 'personality knowledge'...
I mean 'real' change.
Observing people it seems that they all turn around themselves, adapted
to situations but not really changing. On a global view there seems no
change in many centuries. Is there evolution going on with mankind? It
doesn't look like.
are always changes, but mostly this is an illusion, because the movement
in one's thoughts and feeling and superficial changes on the outside happenings
give the impression that there is 'change'.
Before a person can
do something for a 'transformational change', it needs some basic information.
I will list just a few:
One must know and realize
that a real change is not wanted, because the basic characteristic of any
system is that it tries to keep oneself together in the state how it is.
A change is only welcome when this means to make oneself stronger, more
secure, or richer in one's property, whatever this might be... If for one
reason one needs to give up something, then this is mostly causing suffering
if not something else is received in exchange. Mostly a person will defend
oneself against any kind of change or loss.
Since many generations
humanity is fed with concepts and images of all kind. Idealistic dreams
have grown so strong that they cover reality with a dense cloud of mist.
People are identified with their self image and are looking permanently
for confirmation for it. Whatever one is doing serves for this purpose.
In the first place this happens on the material level but then also on
the mind and emotional field.
People are getting their
feeling of 'existence' out of their reactions on the mind and emotional
level. If they don't find enough reason to react in their normal daily
life, then they provoke incidence to be able to react, using other people
for it - and then giving them and circumstances the fault.
All this has people
made dependent on other people and circumstances, because all happenings,
reactions, problems, things, suffering, happiness, actions, goals, excitement,
entertainment and every thing else which is filling them, gives them the
feeling of existence. Within this there is no essential change and there
is no change possible. All stays in one's 'personal drama' and of course
this can be pretty tough...
Part of one's defense
strategy is avoiding self confrontation or questioning oneself. If one
is forced through circumstances then one's system reacts and with this
one can escape, by attacking, hiding or just leaving with any kind of reason.
Trying to change something
without the basic self knowledge, is like when a dog is trying to catch
one's own tail: the dog is just turning around oneself. That's what most
people are doing all their life long.
And even when people
becoming 'spiritual', then they still stay with the same illusion and there
is no real change. They have changed their concept and goal, but they haven't
changed themselves, at least not in an essential way. Of course a 'spiritual'
person will also defend one's position with teeth and claws, although avoiding
extreme violence if possible...
Do you want to know
what you can do for a real change? Then first ask yourself!
you change a person's being or perspective in life?
I want to know how
to change a person's life without being pushy or is it really no way to
one can. It depends on the person if he/she is ready for a change. Otherwise
will only want to hear and is able to receive what confirms their established
view and concepts and then there is no change possible. But if there is
some kind of openness, because this person is suffering and looking out
to find a solution, then it might be possible that by giving an example
through ones own life and ones expression coming out from there, one might
be able to help in a transformation. If there is no openness, then the
other person will mostly find a reason to complain about not getting confirmation
from you by judging you and pointing out mistakes and seeing every thing
as negative what doesn't fit in their self image. Trying to give some information
to clear the situation must fail, the other doesn't want to hear anything
and will reject even the best intention. This can be pretty frustrating
some times, when one sees the stuck position of the other and wants to
help, giving a creative push and then only provoking resistance; but then
this might be a challenge for ones own learning. Understanding human nature
with all in parts absurd contradictions, damaging behavior and rigid concepts.
When we understand this as aspects of reality, we can accept it and give
space to the other... Where they can transform in their own pace.
is a 'transformational change'?
In answering this
myself I would answer: A change that makes one start a completely different
lifestyle. One where the person is so certain that what he/she is doing
on the deepest level is right and for good that there is no room for fear,
or wrong actions and decisions. All actions are completely in tune with
the rest of the universe.
This is my understanding,
I am interested in hearing yours.
explication is describing a possible result of a transformational change
but not what it is by itself. Indeed, a ‘transformational change’ will
have significant results, which will turn out and show in one's lifestyle,
behavior, etc. There might be no fear anymore, as fear is a reaction coming
out from one's unconscious background and this might be cleared up and
also is the result of a transformational change.
Now how does this
happen? If ice melts and becomes water, then this is a transformational
change. If waste goes into the compost and what comes out is good earth,
or if a seed grows and becomes a plant, or a caterpillar becomes a butterfly,
then this we might understand as a transformational change. The problems
with humans is that they can't really ‘understand’ what ‘transformational
change’ in a human is, unless they have passed this change themselves,
- as it includes one's whole being... ‘Understanding’ as long as it happens
in the mind, just can be a concept and then this even might hinder if not
inhibit such a change, because the individual does not want such a change
and will do everything to avoid it. Concepts do a good job in this and
there is no end in this kind of understanding. So whatever I might explain
it will be added to one's already stored concepts and this will not help
to further any ‘transformational change’. So that means that I have to
refuse to talk about it as whatever I might express it will be used to
add to your concepts.
So the only thing
I can do is to point out why it is so difficult that there happens a ‘transformational
change’. This should be a new subject, but at least I will start here:
It has to do with what might be called ‘Personality’, that what we believe
we are. This is not specifically ‘human’ because also animals have it,
but humans are totally identified with it and that's what makes it so extremely
difficult to go beyond it. The system of ‘personality’, like all systems,
wants to keep itself together, for sure not wanting to lose itself, instead
of this the personality is trying to gain more and more, whatever this
might be: Property on all levels, security on all levels, power on all
levels, etc. If there is property, then there is power. Property not only
on the material level, although the tendency in our society puts the most
importance on this, but after this comes the intellectual property. If
one is rich, then one has the possibility to manipulate others and they
will serve to get even richer. The same with intellectual properties: one
can manipulate others and make them to followers or make that they do what
one wants. There is no end and one can never get enough.
Do you think those
people want a ‘transformational change’? So then who might want it? Probably
nobody. Those who are professionals for ‘transformational change’ are using
their knowledge to manipulate the individuals and the masses for their
own purpose. For example: The professionals in spiritual matters like the
churches and religious organizations. What are they doing? They offer concepts
and rituals. This is enough to keep people as followers and keep them quiet.
(Churches are still the richest companies in the world). Next: Professionals
for psychological changes: They have their techniques to treat people,
charge a lot of money and if they can't help, then they describe medication:
Prozac, etc. Do you think they are interested in a ‘transformational change’?
Hahaha. Politicians: For sure they are not interested in any ‘transformational
change’; this is so obvious that I don't need to say more about it. Medical
doctors: There might be a few interested, but what happens is that they
are mainly interested in treating symptoms by describing medication. Are
there individuals among those professionals who might be interested in
a ‘transformational change’ for themselves? Probably not, because they
use their professional knowledge as part of their personality to be confirmed
in their existence and if they can combine for example the knowledge from
psychology with spiritual concepts then they are absolutely unbeatable
and any ‘transformational change’ is kept out. Why? Because whatever might
happen and whatever challenge shows up, it will be successfully rejected
and put in its place where it belongs. Ones superiority will stay untouched.
Change might happen always, because adaptation is necessary and wanted
for one's personality, but for sure no ‘transformational change’.
I know that ‘I’ don't want to give up and ‘I’ don't want to know about
the possibility that ‘I am’ still hanging on with an intellectual concept
or other kind of trick - fooling myself. So then my other question is what
is the yardstick that we can use to measure ourselves - in an independent
way without needing an authority to tell us - if there might be something
currently needing transformation?
Dropping one concept in exchange for another one is not a ‘transformational
change’. But if you become aware that you are identified with your concepts
and getting your feeling of existence out of it, then this might be the
Of course we are fooling
ourselves and we are clinging using all kind of tricks. All and every thing
turns around the ‘I’. If you can measure yourself? A good question. You
can't, there isn't such a ‘stick’. Do what feels right at the moment, knowing
that this is not a measure, but the only way to do it, because your feeling
of what is right is still too much influenced by yourself: your needs,
your wishes, your dreams, your self image, your concepts, your unconscious
background. But if you sensitively are aware then you will observe yourself
and discover the tricks you are using, again being aware that with this
you are going into another game, etc. Your own reactions towards what shows
up in daily life from your surrounding and from people are the best measure,
if you are aware of this and observe and reflect about it, that's all.
So better relax and
trust that finally it will come to an end, what means you will not react
anymore because your background has been cleared up, more you can't do.
And then a ‘transformational change’ might happen.
seems to me that it is a good thing for any individual to have some kind
of change, especially to make it more in touch with its spiritual side.
kind of change?” Is there a real change? Or is there just a change in concepts?
Does it make any difference if somebody is killed because of materialistic
reasons or killed by religious reasons? For the killed person for sure
it will not make any difference, although the religious motivation might
give more strength to the killer...
What is the ‘spiritual
side’ of a person? This seems to be part of an image and so has little
or nothing to do with ‘spirituality’. An example: I am observing a person
who is in a strong ‘spiritual transformational process’. She is pretending,
although she believes totally it is true... It is not real, but this person
is totally involved in it and obviously believes that she is nearly enlightened.
But her daily life behavior showing up in her reactions are still totally
unconscious and to such an extreme, that no communication is possible.
Doing this old game of provoking reactions in another person and then using
the situation to react even stronger and of course finding a reason for
this and giving the fault to the other. Trying to draw the other into arguing:
to win the game. If this doesn't work, because one doesn't join this game,
then getting into a desperate situation with the need to pull the emergency
brake. You see, it is much more complicated and the ‘personality’ owns
a huge arsenal of tricky ways to defend itself that the ongoing game can
continue and the personality can survive. There seems to be no limitation,
but there is: There happens an inner blockage where no trick will help
to find one's ‘self confirmation’.
This is called ‘guardian
of the threshold’ and keeps the door close for everybody who is not ready.
There is no trick possible and always turns the pretending person back
to oneself. So the last trick might be to end in total ‘craziness’ to save
oneself. Pretty absurd and sad, but it works...
But don't let us be
confused by extremes. Transformational change is possible. Let's water
the plants, clean the dishes and don't let us worry too much about transformation...
it really the philosophers' task to change the world?
a man has a good wife, then he will be happy, if he has a bad wife, then
he will become a philosopher!" Probably because he will have a good
reason to ask what sense his life has if he is suffering, while when he
is happy he has no reason to ask. Then when asking and really going for
an answer he will come to the result, that he will need to change himself,
getting out of dependencies and taking self responsibility. From there
he will be able to make decisions and respond to daily life circumstances
in a different way. He will be capable to relate to whatever shows up more
objective and so indeed have changed his personal world view, behavior
and also his habits. And so with all this he will have changed the world,
and even without any intention, it became his 'task' as he started a chain
Does it really exist?
Then where are these people?
Or is it just a kind
of 'sales argument', giving people something to go for...
question indicates that there is a lack of understanding what enlightenment
really is. Or there is a misunderstanding. Probably because the last thirty
years this conception became overloaded with religious and mystical luggage.
Let us see what the
Longman Dictionary of Contemporary English tells us: "Enlightenment
= the act of enlightening: This law is so difficult to understand that
only a lawyer can provide enlightenment. 2: the state of having been enlightened:
The family owed a great deal to the enlightenment of their mother's opinions
about the bringing up of children.
the period in the 18th century in Europe, when certain thinkers taught
that science and the free use of reason would improve the human condition."
So far it doesn't
say much to enlighten the subject. So let's continue to read: "enlighten
= to cause to understand; free from false beliefs: Peter thought the world
was flat until I enlightened him!"
Aha! "Free from
false beliefs" This makes it a little bit clearer: If one is free from
false beliefs then one is 'enlightened', at least in this specific part,
but not totally of course. So to follow the 'use of reason' it would mean
if somebody is free of ALL false beliefs then this person would be 'enlightened'!
It seems to me that this is still not enough. I am convinced that it doesn't
matter if a belief is false or true, - as long the belief is just a belief
and not realized in one's personal growing process. I even want to go further:
A person is not really 'enlightened' if there are still remaining beliefs
and concepts and as long one's existence is based in confirmations of one's
is possible, but it doesn't mean that there exist or had ever exist any
humans with a complete realized state of this being.
you were given 30 seconds to air live internationally on TV, what would
you tell the world?
It will also be the
last thing you say for the rest of your life.
is a good question and reminds me at a happening many years ago: I think
it was 1972 when the Olympic games started in Munich. The moment when the
president was going to open the Olympic games, a young woman took the microphone
and started to talk: "People of the world..." and then the police took
her away. The whole world were listening to this few words... and even
though we didn't know what she was going to say, it had an effect, at least
to me. I thought about it and had asked myself: What is it I would have
said? And I had said to myself: If it ever happens that I have the occasion
to talk in TV or radio, I will try to say something essential. In this
over thirty years that has passed, I had a few occasions to talk in TV
and also in the local radio and I always remembered this girl from the
Olympic games. Now I am making my own videos and still I am following my
intention to be essential.
To answer your question
what I would say in 30 seconds to the world, this makes me feel like if
I need to put an elephant into a matchbox. It seems to be impossible, but
I can try: I would say:
"People of the world!
I am given the unique possibility to talk to you all for just 30 seconds.
In this time I want to share what is the most important and the most essential
for me. You are all overwhelmed by information and entertainment from the
best professionals. I am a simple man and can’t satisfy your mind and can’t
do much to give you good feelings, but I will share the most precious possible
for us all and I can give it to you right now. It is something you hardly
ever can get with this medium: It is silence. Please close your eyes and
enjoy the last 10 seconds filled with precious silence: right now… Be aware
of your existence without distraction…” And the TV turns black and is without
any sound for the remaining time.
I checked it with
a stopwatch and my talking was 40 seconds. So I try again:
“People of the world!
I’m given 30 seconds to talk to you. For what I would like to say this
is too little, my heard is too full. So I will share the most precious
you can receive, so please close your eyes now and enjoy the next 10 seconds.
Be aware of your existence in silence without distraction, right now!”
And the screen turns
black without sound.
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Thank you for this
question. Now I ‘m glad that I can go and make my videos without being
squeezed so much. And thank you for reminding me to be essential!
PS: After I had posted
this answer to 'answer.yahoo' I had some thoughts: The young woman who
had tried to say something in the Olympic Games in 1972 now might be about
sixty years old. Wouldn't it be 'funny' if she would read this answer and
then remember, how disappointed she has been, when the police took her
and she couldn't say more? And then now she would see, that even she had
said only four words, it had an influence on the life of maybe many people...
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You can listen to
an audio of this text.
One of my older videos:
I believe this video
is ‘essential’ but also funny… Enjoy!
There are more and
more will be made...
do people smoke?
When people start
to smoke, mostly when they are young, then it is very much a social thing.
They want to demonstrate that they are grown up, doing things the adults
are doing, so they feel that it looks ‘cool’. But then they get addicted
because of the nicotine that has a numbing effect on ones mind, although
some smokers say that smoking stimulates their thinking. But probably this
is just an excuse to justify their silliness.
People who are smoking
are trying to release their stress and so they smoke excessively when there
is more stress. But they can't release any stress by smoking, they only
reduce their response to situations that create stress. People who are
in a conflict situation smoke a lot with the same reason, but they can't
help finding a solution by smoking, it only reduces their response by numbing
themselves. ‘But then they need something that stimulates them and so smoker
often need to drink coffee. It looks like that nicotine goes together with
caffeine. We can observe this everywhere.
It is not just stress
because of outside difficulties. There is another more subtle reason why
people smoke. A conflict situation can be caused by coming to the moment
in ones life when nothing seems to make sense, there is confusion because
things didn't work out how one wants it and then there is just too much
one should deal with, but one feels impotent to deal with life and coming
to the point falling into a void. The smoker doesn't want to deal with
this situation and somehow it works he/she fills the void with smoke, paying
very expensive with this when rejecting the given challenges in life.
Smoker are not willing
to confront openly a conflict situation, smoking is the best way for them
to hide. This is dramatically serious, because if they do not relate and
respond out of their full capacity, then they get stuck in their personal
evolution and this also has a serious effect on their whole system: Body,
mind, emotions and beyond. Nicotine is toxic and weakens the system, but
this is not the most serious. When the growing, the personal evolution
is intentionally blocked, then this accumulates energy and tension and
this will blow up the system in its weakest point. It might be that the
system destroys itself through a disease or the smoker has self destructive
tendencies, or is manifesting aggression and violence in his/hers surrounding.
This might happen verbal or in form of emotional threatening and in extreme
cases they are provoking others to use their reaction as a reason to be
It is difficult to
relate to smoker on a deeper level, because they don't want to look at
themselves and stay on a superficial level. They don't ask for help and
they reject any help. They are in a spiral of self-destruction and they
draw others into it. That is probably the main reason why smoker doing
so hard if they want to quit smoking even when they are effected by their
habit and seriously sick. It seems not only a personal problem but also
a social one. This society is formed and ruled by smokers and hardly anybody
is questioning their situation and wanting seriously to do something about
There is another aspect
why people smoke.
Because they like
to regret into an infantile state, where they don't need to take self responsibility,
so instead of sucking a dummy (Am. pacifier) they suck at a cigarette or
cigar. It brings them back to the beautiful time when lying in mothers
arms, protected, warm and secure. So when people need to confront situations
in daily life that are not giving this satisfaction they would like to
have when they were a baby, then they grab a cigarette. People are not
conscious about it and they indeed don't want to look at it and they get
really angry if one question their habit and they react the same as a baby
if you take away the pacifier (!).
Probably people drink
for a similar reason, if they suck on a bottle then this is the same and
works the same as a dummy-pacifier! So it is obvious that people don't
want to grow up! And it is easy to understand why they get angry if life's
situations are threatening, forcing them to grow!