people start to smoke, mostly when they are young, then it is very much
a social thing. They want to demonstrate that they are grown up, doing
things the adults are doing, so they feel that it looks Ďcoolí. But then
they get addicted. The nicotine has a numbing effect on ones mind,
although some smokers say that smoking stimulates their thinking. But probably
this is just an excuse to justify their silliness.
People who are smoking
are trying to release their stress and so they smoke excessively when there
is more stress. But they canít release any stress by smoking, they only
reduce their response to situations that create stress. People who are
in a conflict situation smoke a lot with the same reason, but they canít
help finding a solution by smoking, it only reduces their response by numbing
them. ĎBut then they need something that stimulates them and so smoker
need to drink coffee. It looks like that nicotine goes together with caffeine.
We can observe this everywhere.
It is not just stress
because of outside difficulties. There is another more subtle reason why
people smoke. A conflict situation can be caused by coming to the moment
in ones life when nothing seems to make sense, there is confusing because
things didnít work out how one wants it and then there is just too much
one should deal with, but one feels impotent to deal with life and coming
to the point falling into a void. The smoker doesnít want to deal with
this situation and somehow it works he/she fills the void with smoke, paying
very expensive with this when rejecting the given challenges of daily life.
Smoker are not willing
to confront openly a conflict situation, smoking is the best way for them
to hide. This is dramatically serious, because if they do not relate and
respond out of their full capacity, then they get stuck in their personal
evolution and this also has a serious effect on their whole system. Nicotine
is toxic and weakens the system, but this is not the most serious. When
ones sindividual growing process is intentionally blocked, then this accumulates
energy and tension and this will bring ones system out of balance in its
weakest point. It might be that the system destroys itself through a disease
or the smoker has destructive tendencies, manifesting aggression and violence
in his/hers surrounding. This might happen verbal or in form of emotional
threatening and in extreme cases they are provoking others to use their
reaction to be physically violent.
It is difficult to
relate to smoker, because they donít want to look at themselves. They donít
ask for help and they reject any help. They are in a spiral of self-destruction
and they draw others into it. That is probably the main reason why smoker
doing so hard if they want to quit smoking even when they are effected
by their habit and seriously sick. It seems not only a personal problem
but also a social one. This society is formed and ruled by smokers and
hardly anybody is questioning the situation and wanting seriously to do
something about it.
There is another aspect
why people smoke.
Because they like
to regret into an infantile state, where they donít need to take self-responsibility,
so instead of sucking a dummy (Am. pacifier) they suck at a cigarette or
cigar. It brings them back to the beautiful time when lying in mothers
arms, protected, warm and secure. So when people need to confront situations
in daily life that are not giving this satisfaction they would like to
have when they were a baby, then they grab a cigarette. People are not
conscious about it and they indeed donít want to look at it and they get
really angry if one question their habit and they react the same as a baby
if you take away the pacifier (!).
Probably people drink
for a similar reason, if they suck on a bottle then this is the same and
works the same as a dummy-pacifier! So it is obvious that people donít
want to grow up! And it is easy to understand why they get angry if lifeís
situations are threatening, when forcing them to grow!
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